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How to deal with a pathological liar husband

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How to cope with a compulsive or pathological liar in a close relationship. Is your husband or wife, boyfriend or girlfriend a compulsive/pathological liar or a. Over time, Bergman comes to believe her husband's lies and, in turn, He'll tell me that he was working late on a really big deal and he fell.

41ticket Sexix Watch Women for sex in geronimo arizona Video Xxxbl Fsix. Since that moment we had about 8 situations that ware even worse. And he kept lying to me. I really thought that he will change. I can not do it anymore. The worst thing I can not leave him. Mine live far away. I wish I had someone to talk to. You can msg me or we could leave emails or start a closed FB group for support. I feel the samwe way most of you feel and financially sinking now. Its so depressing. I have been with my husband for When we were married 9 years later, He insisted I change my name at dmv But firmly ordered me not to tell the social security office. In ,We left our families my children and grandchildren to move to Florida for a job opportunity. I know noone in this town am stranded and spend 14 hours a day alone Its going on 6 months since losing driving priveleges and having any human contact other than him He has lied to his parents telling them he needs money to this for me Or he needs money to take me somewhere to get me out of house Tells them I have illnesses such as pnuemonia and I need doctor appointment and medicine money only to blow it elsewhere He will not take me anywhere and when I just cant take it anymore and begin to cry and beg for even a conversation or a ride to look at the lake He threatens to work others hours just to keep away from me being negative I do everything for him including keeping his lies our secret He has lied and borrowed in the past 2 years. My husband has been lying to me throughout our 46 year marriage. I am now really ill with Lyme disease and the stress of not being able to trust him is making me so much worse. I have been married for 45 years and now fairly certain that I have been lied to about money and other things for all those years. I think back and when the other young couples that we knew all of the men worked for the same company were buying their first houses, we could barely make the rent, when we did finally buy a house, years later, it was foreclosed on. A number of years and jobs later and we used my inheritance from my mother to put down a much too small down payment on a house that was definitely out of our price range, but he wanted the big, fancy one, and now that is in foreclosure. And he has lied about it for months now. Still trying to lie out of it. And even with that, I had several thousand dollars confiscated a few years ago for back taxes. He insists on doing our taxes himself. When I have the nerve to ask if we owe anything, he always says not to worry about it. Waits till the last minute to file, and sometimes I dint think he has. He likes to be the big shot. I know he will have some story all made up when we have to vacate our house. I need to get out now. Actually I know that I should have never gotten in. I feel trapped and just dnt know what to do. I am trapped I look at him and I hate him for what his done to me. My boys know what his done to me but always seem to take his side because they feel sorry for him. The same to me also. Wants to act like everything is OK and back to usual. Am I just crazy. How would I ever think he would be truthful again. Debbie, Your comment was short but said it all for me. Lie after lie and here I still sit. I am 61 now and kicked him out for the first time last night. Every time this happens, he acts like everything is just fine. He thinks he should be able to come home tonight. Says we in other words.. I know what he wants, the same thing that always happens. I found out the last three years that my husband has lied to me for as long as 12 years. I found pictures of him with two women one on each side and one of them was kissing my husband on the cheek. He said they were his co workers at the time as the pictures were at work. I wish I had found out about all this 12 years go. I feel for you and your situation. Three years ago, I notice him disconnecting emotionally. Not bonding with me or our kids. He wrestled to grab the phone from me, using ALL his strength. I believed him, but later questioned it. Shortly after he moved out, he rented an apartment. Regardless, I attempted to salvage our marriage, while he stood on the sidelines watching me suffer. Although he made no effort in helping us get back together, he finally gave me feedback to reconcile. But, I have more than suspicions, I have a gut feeling that something is just not right. Now could I have been soo setup ALL this time. I want out of this marriage sooo bad. May GOD give me the strength to overcome this. Ronda, I just read this post. My husband has lied to me for 30 years. I found it out 7 years ago. Promised to be honest but continues lying about almost everything. Thanks, Nora. I just read your post. I have a six month old so trying to be strategic. Sorry to hear about your husbands dishonesty. I hope things are better for you now. I am just working my way through a situation now with a dishonest partner. I have a six month old so am trying to be strategic rather than reacting…. He went gambling. I have confronted him but he just called says I m crazy. Awesome story, even some God fearing men are pathological liars and need deliverance. Counseling is great, but deliverance is what is needed. God bless you for your strength and your love to trust Him. I am not sure how Biblical this article is! How surprising! When someone lies to their spouse, turning the focus AWAY from the person doing the lying is detrimental. Satan is the father of lies. Why would be so welcoming and non-judgmental about this? The advice in this article seems to be to ask them what fault they see in the victim of the lie, so they can make excuses for themselves. This denies them being accountable for their own actions, and placing the responsibility for the lies on the person being lied to?! A Godly perspective would be to firmly make sure that person is NOT lying to protect their ego or to hurt the other person and also that it will not be tolerated. There are consequences to ungodly behavior. A person who lies to their spouse usually does not care what the lies do to their spouse and a light slap on the wrist typically makes them see their spouse as weak and will continue to lie to them. It is most definitely a character issue! You did try to bring this back around and did say some good things, but it is completely from a point of view that the person LYING is the one to be catered to. Wrong is wrong and Satan is pointed out in scripture as the father of lies. Bottom line. You are exactly right!!!! When dealing with a liar, one cannot afford to give them the opportunity to make lame excuses for their behavior. A liar, sociopaths or psychopath need to be confront head on with the truth. Well said. I felt the same way when reading this. As if to put part of the blame on the victim of the lie. Savannah, I saw the same things you brought up about this article how it was not biblical. Anything to lighten what actually happened and to avoid the truthful details. I try to work it out and I feel like a fool for being blunt yet also very forgiving over these 16 years of marriage. What I have tried so hard for in a relationship is just not happening. She has enough pride for 7 people and admitting things she is pinned on will not happen. I hate phony. During our dating stages, our relationship was amazing even though at one point she lied to me about her best friend being a guy. I met all her friends but this particular guy was different. I told her that it would hv been weird, yes, but seeing her with a straight face lied in my face was pretty scary because it would make me question whether or not she is lying again. Her statement was.. Then she said she did it because she knew it would upset me. It has been an up battle. This incident with her coworker happened on Thanksgiving night. Last weekend, her work had a Christmas party. At one point, we even video chat showing me the party people at her table. I texted her, called her without any answers. At first I thought she had fallen asleep because she sounded tired frm the night before but again my gut instinct told me otherwise. I felt like a bucket of ice water had been poured on me. She has literally turned the table on me why she has lied all these times. I told her it is difficult to let go when issues keep happening even after we got married. I hv been doing alot of soul searching. I love her, yes….. Do I want it to work…, yes. Reading yours posts makes me question so much about me…. I know for a fact if something happens again especially with alcohol she will continue blaming me for her deceiving actions. So the only thing I do now is pray to see what God has storaged for us. This last incident happened this past weekend. I feel confused. I feel like I am working way to hard to believe her now but most of all my inner peace has been shattered. This is what happened for being a hopeless romantic I guess. I will appreciate any feedback whether or not those lies will continue frm your point of view. I keep catching him in his lies and keep forgiving him. The night before our wedding I asked him if he has anything to tell me before our big day, i told him that this is your chance to come clean before our wedding. He said to me to my face he has nothing to hide. He said it is a friend and he calls her to ask advice about the issues and problems that goes on in our relationship. I absolutely will not trust him ever again. If anyone has any advice besides keep fighting, will be great. God bless us all. I know your pain. This will not end soon, if it ends at all. She has a problem with alcohol and she lies about other things as well. Liars are liars. I am in almost exact same situation as you. It was an Indian arranged marriage. Knew him about 3 months before marriage. He is very loving towards me, shops for me, we travelled to different countries. He even said he is going to tell everyone and shame me. Next day he would say sorry. I let go multiple incidents and then slowly the lies about drinking. Lies about every small thing , sams time he would care for me very much.. Everyone said you are so lucky. Another drinking incident and when I confronted he left me in the middle of the night , threw my clothes in the hotel room and took all the suitcases. He did all this in front of my and his friends. He made up stuff that I am not capable of having kids. Days of drinking continued and fights. I figured through find iPhone that he actually went to Bangkok. When I texted he just kept lying about the hotel he is staying and that he is going to meet people for his work. It shattered me like someone kicks me in my stomach. Next he messaged saying he lied and that he is not drinking but no apology. Left it in limbo. I miss the good things he did.. Or was all this attention an act? Maybe he never really felt sorry for his acts.. Why I still want this to work.. Absolutely true! My husband lies about everything, especially in ways dt damage my character to his family and friends. I have put up with it for d longest time but no more. Satan is indeed d father of liars. Amen Savannah!!! Thank goodness I continued to read down thru comments to find yours!!! ALL ungodly behviors. I remained is this hellish nightmare with my unrepentant, non sorrowful husband for 17 years. He became adapt at tuning into exactly what he believes equipped him to continue in his wicked behavior…as the few times he did attend any church services…. Sorry for the rant…but I made a very huge and costly mistake of listening to early advice for church leaders.. Early on after consulting, crying and pleading for help in addressing these ongoing habitual lies…intentional withholding of intimacy as form of punishment…I was told to find ways to better please him…and that if I loved him enough…I would be able to get him to do anything i want! THAT is what one pastor of a very large church told me! How pathetic. I pray for women who are faced with these horrendous issues…I pray that they have courage to trust in the Almighty YAHVEH Elohim that created them…and through their steadfast obedience to HIM and in love for their Savior Yeshua of Natzaret, they are able to break free from the bondage and wickedness of their spouses unrepentant, rebelliousness towards our Heavenly FAther. HOW in the world is anyone ever able to bear fruit being yoked up with a rotten branch? She is old enough to know the TRUTH of the wickedness at hand…and that I have had to place NO Contact in order to further protect her from his very unbalanced views of women! I refuse to allow him to exploit her! Long reply I know… i suppose there is therapy in sharing our most hurtful and disappointing encounters. I committed myself to the marriage regardless of the many times I discovered and tried to address his ongoing sinning against the LORD and myself. He made the choices…not me. I am a godly woman I have lots of faith I believe that God does not make mistakes and throttle is as a reason pfor everything so I will continue praying for him but because of my illnessI may be off for another six months or more, so I have a year to get my life together. In Jesus love, Cat. My husband has had a LIFE-long history of lying, which I just found out about in the past couple of years. It was SOOO hard to find out that he has lied thousands upon thousands of times, about all kinds of things. In this case, it totally had to do with his upbringing. We all blunder through life and grow in the process; this is why we need to give each other mercy, grace, and forgiveness. SO — when he got married, and his wife was having her own troubles with anger and criticism because of HER family of origin! For example, he might call and say he was just leaving work when he had really been at the bank making a deposit. Why would he lie about that? So he would lie just to avoid that unpleasantness. This is not putting the blame for lying on the victim, but rather, seeing the reason behind the lying. You have to see the reason behind it before you can dig out of it. So we both had to work at it: He showed me how I was being unkind and disrespectful — not intentionally! I have always respected my husband, and told others how great he was, etc.! Lying is wrong. NO contesting that fact. Wow Sammi. I was always faithful, loyal, honest, loving, etc. I found out he was addicted to porn. So even though, I loved him properly, and did all the right things, I still got hurt. Is it so hard to find a partner who has the same qualities, morals and values nowadays? I so confused, hurt, depressed by all this. I also have a tiny bit of hope for us, but it is so hard. Sammi, thank you for taking the time to write such a beautiful and compassionate response to this question. You have spoken to a deep issues and patterns that my husband and I share with you. I want you to know that your words helped us see our struggles in a new light. Years he convinced me there was something wrong with me. Those author encourage setting boundaries and use not tolerating lying or deceit in a relationship as one of them. Sorry, and I so enjoy many of your articles and books. Good comments. People are different and marriage is no exception. Whether seeking counseling or working on marital problems among each other, it takes a great amount of grace and love when one has been wronged with lying. When you bring in the porn factor, it can be very difficult to put a relationship back together, if there was one in the beginning. I have been there and back with this issue and would agree with all the comments to some degree, but good counseling will look at each person, ask Holy Spirit how to speak into their lives, because only He can cause a heart change in an individual. It is true boundaries are necessary, truth is a must, and lying must stop for any relationship to exist and flourish, but not everyone gets to that point by following a formula, certain boundaries, or confrontation. Holy Spirit is the Great Spirit of Counseling and can lead as to how to counsel. I am thinking of the Scripture that says the Love of God brings men to repentance. My husband lies constantly also. We have been married for 30 years and for the last 10 years, I have lowered my expectations from him to almost nothing. I feel like I am living with an enemy and I have to watch my back as well as the back of my 4 daughters. I stayed in the marriage because I was taught as a Christian you stay in the marriage unless you are being physically abused ie he is breaking the law. I thought I was doing the right thing but unfortunately my daughters have paid a huge price. Anxiety issues, eating issues, and now my youngest 21 years old has had a child who lives with us too. I quickly saw that the father is also very selfish narcissistic I would say so I encouraged my daughter to break off their relationship and co-parent their daughter separately. My husband does not like us criticizing the father but I am firm that my daughter needs to quickly learn what is going on with him and make adjustments to her behaviour to be able to do the best for her daughter and finish school. The only way I know to deal with this is to hang on tight to the Lord and pray for wisdom each day and for the rapture to come quickly. Its too much. Pull down each brick in the wall of lies…. Every once in a while I will pull down a brick, if the facts are obvious but his response is usually rage. If he lies about what has happened in the past, I end the conversation. I am so sorry to read this. My heart breaks for you: Have you considered separation? I think that it would not be unbiblical to separate. You ARE being abused if you are constantly being lied to. Mental and emotional abuse is every bit as damaging as physical. And for the very same reasons you counseled your daughter to be separated from the unhealthy, ungodly man who is the father of her child, I think you need to consider being separate from the man who is unhealthy and ungodly who is the father of your children. No matter what his claims whether he claims to be a Christian or not , constant lying is ungodly, and if after 30 years he is still subjecting his wife to constant lying, that boundary needs to be set in place, and he needs to experience the consequences of breaking his marriage covenant. This most certainly precludes lying. He must not have the benefits of marriage without the responsibilities. Again, I very much realize this is unsolicited advice, and apologize for that. I just felt compelled to share that with you. Praying that God guides you into HIS truth. My relationship with my wife started with her cheating on me. She became pregnant and only after a DNA test I knew he was mine. We did get married as I was taught to as well to do everything to keep a relationship together. A few years later she cheated again, this time with multiple people at once. I filed for divorce and she begged that she would change. Then she even forged checks out of my business account. I filled for divorce again and the lies continue. Nearly always this is because of previous relationship or childhood pain. Typically where a significant loss has occurred, shame humiliation or breach of trust and love. Compulsive Lying Disorder Reason 8 Addiction. The most common habitual lying I see in my work as a marriage counselor and coach is lies being told to cover up an addiction or obsession. The lying usually starts as the odd lie here and there and as things progress it can become significantly compulsive. Where a husband or wife lie not only to their significant others but to everyone and it just comes out. They will automatically for example lie about what they have consumed or done. Lying becomes a defensive mechanism to hide from the truth that the addiction has a hold on them. Addicts easily turn into compulsive liars as denial is a way to protect themselves from the shame, guilt and powerlessness attached to the addiction. Before long the lying can become, so habitual it is done without any thought. Pathological liars struggle to do this, even if all the evidence is stacked against them. Yet is the very thing the other spouse wants and needs to move forward and save the relationship. On the one hand the need for closure and admission and on the other the desire to gloss over and pretend nothing has happened. Only once you know the reason can you address the cause. Stay tuned for more on this topic, be sure to download my free e-book 7 secrets to saving your marriage to make sure that you get more supportive articles like this. If you are struggling with this and would like to share what is on your mind. Your comment. Get Your Free Report. Download Your Free Report Now! Take The Free Quiz: Can My Marriage Be Saved? Download Your Quiz Now! Why Does a Compulsive Liar Lie? Compulsive Lying Disorder Reason 1. Self-esteem lying to get external approval is a very apparent in most compulsive liars. The good news? If you know what to look for, you can identify a pathological liar. The tricky part? Pathological liars are much more skilled at lying than the average Joe. When you catch your partner in a potential lie or you try to talk about something that just doesn't add up, your partner goes from doting and loving to You go from feeling completely secure in the relationship to feeling as if you're walking on eggshells. He can go from one extreme to the other quickly and without warning. Often you find yourself keeping your head low and being as agreeable as possible, so you don't have to endure one of his silent treatment s or "mood s. When I confronted my husband about his big lie, he vacillated between rage and complete silence. You try to have an open discussion with your partner about something that bothers you and he changes the course of the conversation to how really you're to blame for a, b and c, that you didn't even know were related to the current conversation but somehow now seem massively important. Suddenly, you're wracking your brain for how to make it up to your partner for being insensitive to his needs. He's shifting the blame to you and even making you feel like the guilty one. When we love someone, it's easy to forget reality. It's easy to get our hopes up and to give the person the benefit of the doubt. It's easy to think that this person is good. Unfortunately, in this situation, you can't really do that. You'll need to be on the lookout. Keep records. Not exactly the funnest thing to do in a relationship, but it can prove really handy. If you need to make sure you're not the crazy one or you're not the one blowing things out of proportion, it's wise to keep a notebook of the incidents. Or if you're in a situation where you start couples therapy, you can offer it up as documentation of the problem. It'll also help fuel your memory. There may come a time when you go, "You know, that one time where I got angry at you because you lied about the thing at the place with the statue Why did they lie about that anyway? Keep the focus on the relationship. Instead of constantly being on their rear about being a raging liar, keep the attention on the quality of your relationship. Their lies are deteriorating the trust between you two. You still care for them, but their behavior is making it hard to be happy with them. It's not about the liar, it's about the lies and about the two of you. Know not to trust behavior in the heat of the moment. If a big lie presents itself, you may see the liar telling the truth. Huzzah, right?! Not so fast. They may see this as a one-time thing that got you off their back. They threw you off their scent. So instead of celebrating, wait till you're sure it's not a fluke. Some pathological liars, however, won't do this. They'll sit and stare at you and that's the only admission of guilt you're going to get. You may have to be appeased with just that. Know that they know you know. That's worth something. Ignore them. When the compulsive liar in your life starts on a real life version of two truths and a lie, ignore it. If you know it's cockamamie, don't pay it any attention. When your response to, " I once bred ferrets for the Queen of England," is "Oh," not only will they probably get the hint, but you might be able to have some fun with it, too. It is possible to gloss over their lies. Society tells us to be nice and to pay attention to what people to say and to care about their words -- but they're breaking all the rules, so you can too. If they ask why you're giving them the cold shoulder, be honest. You don't want to give their lies any more attention than they deserve. Be patient. This person has a problem that is not easy to be helped. Try your best to be patient with them. We all are fighting battles -- theirs just happens to be quite irritating to everyone else. Talk to someone else that's in the same circle as both of you. You'll feel a lot better having someone else on your side that you know is also going through something similar. You can combine forces and figure out how to confront the problem in a constructive way. Don't feel the need to call them out on everything. When the lies range from, "I refilled the toilet paper, yes," to "I once shaved Britney Spears' head for her," it's clear that you're going to have to pick your battles. Let the small ones go maybe you can ignore those and confront the big ones -- if you're not too exhausted! If you do choose to call them out on some, choose the ones you don't understand. It makes sense to make yourself look good, to make others envy you, but why lie about the amount of mayo left in the fridge? Start a discussion, if you're feeling up to it. Offer a way out before you address the lie. When you've spotted a lie the size of an elephant, it's not wise to be all, "You lying waste of space! That's obviously not true. Instead form the first stage of your "accusation" more nicely, where the accused has a chance to right their wrong. Let's say you find out that your boyfriend didn't go over to his mom's this afternoon to help her around the house. Instead of saying, "Hey. I talked to your mom," start off with, "Hon, did you go to your mom's today? Why did you lie? Disrupt the habit over and over. It's the first time that's going to be the most awkward..

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In fact most of his life he was more comfortable with short flings and casual arrangements. He tried a few times to make relationships work but always got cold feet. He wanted a family life How to deal with a pathological liar husband relationship in many ways, click on the other hand, it did scare him.

This is where men and women crave attention and affection and will make efforts to date and meet people, but as soon as they get close to something serious, they run a mile. Nearly always this is because of previous relationship or childhood pain. Typically where a significant loss has occurred, How to deal with a pathological liar husband humiliation or breach of trust and love.

Compulsive Lying Disorder Reason 8 Addiction. The most common habitual lying I see in my work as a marriage counselor and coach is lies being told to cover up an addiction or obsession. The lying usually starts as the odd lie here and How to deal with a pathological liar husband and as things progress it can become significantly compulsive. Where a husband or wife lie not only to their significant others but to everyone and it just comes out.

They will automatically for example lie about what they have consumed or done. Lying becomes a defensive mechanism to hide from the truth that the addiction has a hold on them. Addicts easily turn into compulsive liars as denial is a way to protect themselves from the shame, guilt and powerlessness attached to the addiction.

Before long the lying can become, so habitual it is done without any thought. Pathological liars struggle to do this, even if all the evidence is stacked against them. Yet is the very thing the other spouse click at this page and needs to move forward and save the relationship.

On the one hand the need for closure and admission and on the other the desire to gloss over and pretend nothing has happened. Only once you know the reason can you address the cause. Stay tuned for more on this topic, be sure to download my free e-book 7 secrets to saving your marriage to make sure that you get more supportive articles like this.

And when that someone happens to be your spouse, the sense of betrayal is even more profound. How can you rebuild trust when your spouse has lied to you?

If you are struggling with this and would like to share what is on your mind. Your comment. Get Your Free Report. Download Your Free Report Now! Take The Free Quiz: Can My Marriage Be Saved? For five years, he lied to me. For four of those five years, I had absolutely no idea. And then our daughter was born, and he tried to get away with a lie so big his entire How to deal with a pathological liar husband of cards collapsed.

Three weeks after I gave please click for source, I found nearly indisputable evidence that my husband was leading a double life complete with girlfriend. Instead of coming clean though, he lied. And lied and How to deal with a pathological liar husband. The good news? If you know what to look for, you can identify a pathological liar.

The tricky part? Pathological liars are much more skilled at lying than the average Joe. When you catch your partner in a potential lie or you try to talk about something that just doesn't add up, your partner goes from doting and loving to You go from feeling completely secure in the relationship to feeling as if you're walking on eggshells. I pray God continuously gives me strength everyday even when I have days that my faith is fractured, again. I understand your pain and have stayed in a toxic relationship for 6 years trying to get this man to love me as much as I love him, and the fear of being alone and not How to deal with a pathological liar husband someone to love and would love me back.

These choices are hard, and I keep praying that God will help guide and change him. I just want someone to love me for me, good and bad. I can understand what you are talking about. I feel why cannot I find someone who loves me and I can trust. I want to live the most full and happy life and this man I am with is so untrustworthy and betrays me.

Hang in there! I found after 23yrs that my wife lied about her sexual history and several other major things such as finances and our business. My wife told me about her past but many things hidden.

After finding out she had lied various times to me we saw two different marriage counselors, my wife lied to the first one and after several sessions of being called out on her lies quit going. She is already distancing us from the second one.

Who knew when searching for help there would be others, many others like me in a toxic marriage like mine. My husband has been How to deal with a pathological liar husband to see more since before our marriage but I found out after How to deal with a pathological liar husband were married just how much a compulsive liar he really is.

He told me he graduated HS. And I would always forgive him. Find out he lied about how much money was on the card or maybe his check was short or whatever the case may be. These examples were very earlier on in our marriage. Now he just lies about stupid stuff like going to the dentist. I get a call from our dentist recently asking if my husband would be making up his appointments?

I say what are you talking about, he made his appointments. They said no Mrs…. They are lying. Ok lets call them on 3 way. We get them on the phone, he talks and says he was there. She pulls the file, no Mr……. I had heard enough. I thanked her and hung up. Source it was necessary. For 3 months this dude was acting like he was going to work. And I always refute this by saying dude you were lying to me when we were dating, way before we got married.

This was before me.

So, someone in your life makes, "I did not have relations with that woman," look like child's play, eh? How do you deal with them?

Bring out the violins. The dentist debacle just happened, and it takes the cake. I want him gone!!!

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I clean up the finances, I keep stability around our children even though I want to break down, I act like Mary Poppins, like all is well. The odds were against us already. Everyone thinks we have the perfect marriage. He cooks, cleans, for the most part loving. No affairs, gainfully employed, Good mom. He is a good person, just not to me. I feel like I deserve so much better.

But I have no one else to talk to about this. Thanks for listening and any advice please How to deal with a pathological liar husband. So many heartbreaking stories. But how do you deal with the lies. So quick to lie, so easily adjusting How to deal with a pathological liar husband facts to fit her story.

These seem to be a skin of truth, filled with a more info fat lie. Hi sad dad, I am asking the same question…. I have flat out told my husband that being honest is the most important thing in our relationship. I have read about narcissistic behavior and feel this is part of his inability to tell the truth. I feel like I am going nuts a lot of the time.

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He lies about the dumbest things. He exaggerates to make things appear better than they are. He is more affectionate and admits it when others are around to make him look better. He has the ability to be incredibly charming and loving. I am at my wits end. He went to the extend to hide a receipt from a lunch they had together.

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It was pitiful. I am a fact based person. He agreed to tell the truth. Yesterday, his phone went off while he was driving and he asked me to look and read message.

You can tell they have lots of chemistry and they.

It was from her. I felt like something was up, and checked his phone log. He deletes all questionable texts and phone logs on his phone but, it is on the phone bill log… I saw he had contacted her and vice versa several times.

I am not really upset about their texting as much as I am livid about him lying about it. I said to him why is it more How to deal with a pathological liar husband to communicate with this person and lie about it than to tell me?

I finally got fed up and stated even if she is not fishing for an affair, he is engaging. He needs to have his ego fed. I asked him why it was so important to him to continue to contact this girl, his answer was because I like her. I told him from the beginning that even if he were to have an affair, spend all of our money, or, do something really stupid, I would have the ability to forgive him if only he was check this out about it.

My husband and I have very different points of view on what is important in life, as a result of different upbringings.

He has often been caught out How to deal with a pathological liar husband scratchcards and lottery tickets, despite me making my feelings known about how harmful this is to our marriage, so he does it behind my back, yet I am smarter than he thinks and often catch him out.

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Can anyone this web page advice? A Godly perspective is to respond as Christ would and the first action of Jesus is always forgiveness. How many on this thread have read 1 Corinthians 13 and live every step of it? How many on this thread have read about Christ and his relationship with his disciples?

How many have suffered as Christ has suffered and extended love, grace and forgiveness as Christ How to deal with a pathological liar husband to each one of us? Who on this thread has lied to the Lord, stole from Him in tithes and offerings, cheated on Christ, lusted for things above God, betrayed and manipulated your own self in Light of Christ? I speak from experience that the very first thing to do is not confront, it is to drop to your knees How to deal with a pathological liar husband ask for direction and wisdom.

Before any relationship can be healed, every person on this thread must first ask the Lord to break and humble themself. There is no going forward until we realize that our own heart is deceitful above all things. It will deceive us into being judges and justifying our behavior rather than encouraging us to be Christ-like.

The first step in healing, restoration, a change in our husband, is to first let God shed his light in our own heart and change us. Sin is sin. There are no exceptions. Lying is not worse than gossiping. They each have different effects, and there are different results from sowing and reaping but how you deal with your situation is more important then the actual situation. If your spouse is lying to you, God already knows that and He is not surprised by it.

It is our job, as wives, to seek the Lord, to follow hard after Him, to trust in Him with all of our heart and not lean on our own understanding, and to be our best example of Christ to our spouse. The level of maturity falls to us, if we recognize this weakness in our spouse.

If a spouse is not walking with the Lord, it is going to be very hard for them to behave as if they are. Therefore, it should be expected that our spouses are going to sin if they are not in right relationship with Christ. At that point, there is no blanket response or action for what is going on in each of our marriages.

Each situation is different. Each woman has a different level of commitment. Each woman has a different level of maturity in Christ. God needs us to come to him and see more Him what we should do. Allow the Holy Spirit to comfort your broken heart. Allow the Holy Spirit to give you revelation and insight. Pray the Holy Spirit to move on behalf of your husband and speak life over your spouse and marriage through the scriptures.

Find scriptures of promise and pray them over your spouse. Insert his name, insert your name, and speak life into your relationship. Remember that God loves your husband no matter what state he is in. It is His will that none perish and it is His will that your husband come into right relationship with Him and be changed. God wants that way more than you do. The state that each person has expressed here their husband on this thread clearly says that your man is deceived.

If he How to deal with a pathological liar husband deceived, then he is bound in chains and fetters from the enemy. Until you are sinless, take care not How to deal with a pathological liar husband be too rash and harsh with your fruit inspections. Yes, it is wrong to lie, be How to deal with a pathological liar husband porn, have an affair, steal, withhold affection…the list goes on, but it is also sin to disrespect our check this out and tear hom down on Intenet threads regardless of how he has disrespected us.

I have lived a life to hell and back, and yet, I have joy and peace. My focus is on God and I watch him work miracles in my relationship with my husband every time I seek Him first, instead of trying to change my spouse. That perspective changes everything. I am no longer the responsible one for my husband, God is, and He will do a much better job than I, dealing with him. He carries me and in His arms no harm can come to me. I had come to realize that even after the lies I was still giving what I so badly needed and wanted from the man I married and loved honestyand respect it got worse from here on out he would take others word over mine things he would hear from others he would believe and then treat me like a peice of crap instead of coming and asking me if what he heard was true or not???

That was something I had stressed to him from the very beginning and that there was nothing that he could not tell me or ask me for I will not make you feel ashamed or judged but it did not matter what I said he made me feel very much like an outsider and the enemie I could not understand why or what was going on our arguments were more and more and getting worse.

You should never put your children in the middle of ur issues. Most often I have retaliated and felt even worse as I have permitted myself to say the most awful things to my husband. It never once made me feel better. Instead when I have taken the situation and surrendered it to the lord I have returned stronger. My husband too refuses to enter into counseling although we have the same problem since 30 years and I feel its not only destroyed me but its destroyed him too.

Yet his ego wont allow him to admit the same. My greatest fear is how our lives will impact the future relationships of my 3 sons with their respective partners. He has to make good His How to deal with a pathological liar husband to me and I have to continue to trust His love for me and for my family.

May God be with all of us in our moments of despair and may we all be given the gift of grace that we may be ever forgiving. One day things will turn around and we will be truly happy in our marriages. Wow, a lot of this rings true with me. So, a back story. My husband and I have been married for about 10 years, together for Well, that all came crashing down on us with the crash of the How to deal with a pathological liar husband back in i believe.

He was working as a financial advisor and due to the stress and loss of money, he began drinking ended up getting fired because he was drinking on the job.

Ever since, our life has taken many drastic turns. The lies started of course with drinking. He cashed out my K years ago without my knowledge and when I confronted him, he said he had to because he needed the money to pay bills. This last October when we were supposedly supposed to be filing our taxes late with the extensionwe never received a bill.

I kept asking him to check with the CPA and figure things out. Well, after months of asking and no resolution from him, I called the CPA myself. Sure enough, the taxes had not been filed.

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When I confronted him, he acted baffled. Almost angry at the CPA for screwing up. We turned our house upside down and still nothing. Amazingly the youtube tutorial worked, the safe How to deal with a pathological liar husband open and I got my SS card but my Moms ring was nowhere to be found. I immediately accused him of lying about the keys being missing and never even putting my ring in the safe. My first instinct is he pawned it. Feeling so hopeless and scared.

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So what do you do? My husband of 4 years with for 7 continues to lie about everything! I am the lier here. We been separated for 3 years but we text or talk at times. I started hanging out with friends and meet a guy friend. Looks bad I know but nothing more happened.

I love my husband I want him back and I wish we could work it out.

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I am hoping that I can get some insight from people. We met and it was an instant connection. Three weeks later I found out that he lived in a different How to deal with a pathological liar husband father away from me we always hung out at my place. Once again I believed he was done lying and was so in love and stupid. I asked him point blank if he had anything else to tell me and he said no.

I confronted him at his house and he was so distraught telling me things would be different. I fell back into his spell.

Though I dont think I ever truly trusted him. A few months later I discovered that he looked at p rn and live webcams. I drew and line and said no webcams even though all of it made me uncomfortable. A few months later I found pictures of women naked on his computer and found that he had sent pictures too. I was furious and was ready to walk. He convinced me I could change.

As you can see I have some serious faults at believeing ppl. We got engaged and I continued to find the lies. On our wedding night he lied to me and got so mad at me for questioning me that I let it go thinking I was wrong. Almost a year later I found out I was right. He How to deal with a pathological liar husband lied to me for over a year. He was still talking with other women, viewing them online etc.

He is a p rn addict and look at times a week. We have two small children, and last year he got fired. He lied to me for over a week after getting fired, pretending to go to work and then coming home once I left. Still doing filthy things online all the while I begged for a better s xual relationship.

The last straw was when I caught him on webcams and flirting with other women whom I have asked him repeatedly not to talk to.

The content he views online is beyond normal. He constantly picks that over me. I do not know what to do. I do not think he will change. He is going to counseling only because I have set it up for him. He will not let me go with him and insists on going alone.

Any advice would help. I started seeing my own counselor this week. So read more. We married after only knowing each other for 28 days.

Sounds crazy but we both felt madly in love. Now I know not the greatest dessision. I was in a marriage for 17 years to my ex and had been divorced for two years and he made me feel like a queen.

Right out of the gate I found out that lying was not a big deal to him. He started lying about things when he learned that I felt certain things were not exceptable to me. He owns a business that How to deal with a pathological liar husband a tiki bar.

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He has a fascination with girls, I learned it really quick. He likes to surround himself with attractive fun girls to the point to which I feel disrespected. It goes on and on, stupid stuff. I started confronting him right away, and he would deny things and lie to me right to my face, so I stopped confronting until 6 months ago. I blew my lid. Trust is gone. Any advice.

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I was having a boyfriend. Well, Thank goodness I have finally found a place to verbalized my pain, fear and frustration. Like most of you ladies I suspect my husband of 16 yrs. Anyone ever heard of the Gas Lantern story? No safe warm security at my house!!!

Was I so blind, or did he just suddenly change all his ways?

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Life has turned into a cruel Joke. It is an extremely effective form of emotional abuse, that causes a victim to question their own feelings, instincts, and sanity, which gives the abusive partner a lot of power.

I surfed online one faithful Wednesday after work,trying to get more ideas on how to fix marriages. Immediately after 2hours he wrote me that all would be fine,If i believe and have faith that true love never dies….

I strongly believe and knew my problem was over cause i never gave up on my family…. He How to deal with a pathological liar husband that i only make provision for the items needed to perform a binding and return prayers which i did.

He gave me a guarantee that after the prayers is completed i will How to deal with a pathological liar husband changes in my marriage with will only take 24hrs to see effect and that my husband will come open to me to where he has wronged and will seek for my forgiveness…He also told me before the ritual that my husband was under the spell of that woman and not all woman are happy seeing married couples united,Lot of females out there are just to separate the love and union built for years…….

I went away to study and he told me he went out and got our seven year old to lie for him and upon phone conversations he hang up never answered the phone I stayed up all night just thinking and calling and he never answered the only option left for me to do was move out. My wife has lied about money for years, she has a gambling addiction and refuses to admit it. She steals from relatives to here her habit and each time she is found out she blames everyone but herself.

She has emptied our bank accounts and literally put me out of a job and in the poor house. Now on disability I have no choice but to leave this mess.

Only wish I had done it a decade ago before my family was destroyed. I felt loyalty to her that was my mistake. I need advise. I know that had I known this I would not even have dated him let alone marry him. This article hits home! I have been very happily married for over 30 years and my husband has lied to me about the most insignificant things over the last two years. He just started changing, seemed like over night, and I was worried so I went to google and got the idea that he must be cheating.

Well, that got stuck in my head and I accused him of cheating. Our lives have How to deal with a pathological liar husband for How to deal with a pathological liar husband two years now. He said and promised that he never did and never would cheat, but my see more is saying something is just not quite right. About months of hell, he started with little white lies that makes no sense at all. Now the man that I love more than anything in the world, has lost my trust.

We have been working very hard to get back to just being us. He has been pretty good, but he is not the same man of some 30 yrs of marriage. Some say he went through a mid-life crisis. He is now more self-centered, which is not who he always was. I still have the suspicion of him cheating, but have never found one ounce of proof. But that thought never leaves and I need help to get it out of my head. I want to just relax, stay calm, and enjoy life, but without trusting him to not lie How to deal with a pathological liar husband me again is killing me.

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A few years ago he quit is job that he disliked and started his own trucking company.

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It was all daytime work, so he is home everyday. He loves the freedom and independence and it was going great. You have always had high standards and are respected by everyone because of your morals.

But, he continued. You still care for them, but their behavior is making it hard to be happy with them. It's not about the liar, it's about the lies and about the two of you. Know not to trust behavior in the heat How to deal with a pathological liar husband the moment.

If a big lie presents itself, you may see the liar telling the truth. Huzzah, right?! Not so fast. They may see this as a one-time thing that got you off their back. They threw you off their scent. So instead of celebrating, wait till you're sure it's not a fluke. Some pathological liars, however, won't do this.

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I confronted him at his house and he was so distraught telling me things would be different. I fell back into his spell. Though I dont think I ever truly trusted him. A few months later I discovered that he looked at p rn and live webcams. I drew and line and said no webcams even though all of it made me uncomfortable. A few months later I found pictures of women naked on his computer and found that he had sent pictures too. I was furious and was ready to walk. He convinced me I could change. As you can see I have some serious faults at believeing ppl. We got engaged and I continued to find the lies. On our wedding night he lied to me and got so mad at me for questioning me that I let it go thinking I was wrong. Almost a year later I found out I was right. He had lied to me for over a year. He was still talking with other women, viewing them online etc. He is a p rn addict and look at times a week. We have two small children, and last year he got fired. He lied to me for over a week after getting fired, pretending to go to work and then coming home once I left. Still doing filthy things online all the while I begged for a better s xual relationship. The last straw was when I caught him on webcams and flirting with other women whom I have asked him repeatedly not to talk to. The content he views online is beyond normal. He constantly picks that over me. I do not know what to do. I do not think he will change. He is going to counseling only because I have set it up for him. He will not let me go with him and insists on going alone. Any advice would help. I started seeing my own counselor this week. So frustrating. We married after only knowing each other for 28 days. Sounds crazy but we both felt madly in love. Now I know not the greatest dessision. I was in a marriage for 17 years to my ex and had been divorced for two years and he made me feel like a queen. Right out of the gate I found out that lying was not a big deal to him. He started lying about things when he learned that I felt certain things were not exceptable to me. He owns a business that has a tiki bar. Bartenders, ladies and female employees will send him pictures of themselves being a little crazy. He has a fascination with girls, I learned it really quick. He likes to surround himself with attractive fun girls to the point to which I feel disrespected. It goes on and on, stupid stuff. I started confronting him right away, and he would deny things and lie to me right to my face, so I stopped confronting until 6 months ago. I blew my lid. Trust is gone. Any advice. I was having a boyfriend. Well, Thank goodness I have finally found a place to verbalized my pain, fear and frustration. Like most of you ladies I suspect my husband of 16 yrs. Anyone ever heard of the Gas Lantern story? No safe warm security at my house!!! Was I so blind, or did he just suddenly change all his ways? Life has turned into a cruel Joke. It is an extremely effective form of emotional abuse, that causes a victim to question their own feelings, instincts, and sanity, which gives the abusive partner a lot of power. I surfed online one faithful Wednesday after work,trying to get more ideas on how to fix marriages. Immediately after 2hours he wrote me that all would be fine,If i believe and have faith that true love never dies…. I strongly believe and knew my problem was over cause i never gave up on my family…. He request that i only make provision for the items needed to perform a binding and return prayers which i did. He gave me a guarantee that after the prayers is completed i will see changes in my marriage with will only take 24hrs to see effect and that my husband will come open to me to where he has wronged and will seek for my forgiveness…He also told me before the ritual that my husband was under the spell of that woman and not all woman are happy seeing married couples united,Lot of females out there are just to separate the love and union built for years……. I went away to study and he told me he went out and got our seven year old to lie for him and upon phone conversations he hang up never answered the phone I stayed up all night just thinking and calling and he never answered the only option left for me to do was move out. My wife has lied about money for years, she has a gambling addiction and refuses to admit it. She steals from relatives to support her habit and each time she is found out she blames everyone but herself. She has emptied our bank accounts and literally put me out of a job and in the poor house. Now on disability I have no choice but to leave this mess. Only wish I had done it a decade ago before my family was destroyed. I felt loyalty to her that was my mistake. I need advise. I know that had I known this I would not even have dated him let alone marry him. This article hits home! I have been very happily married for over 30 years and my husband has lied to me about the most insignificant things over the last two years. He just started changing, seemed like over night, and I was worried so I went to google and got the idea that he must be cheating. Well, that got stuck in my head and I accused him of cheating. Our lives have changed for over two years now. He said and promised that he never did and never would cheat, but my gut is saying something is just not quite right. About months of hell, he started with little white lies that makes no sense at all. Now the man that I love more than anything in the world, has lost my trust. We have been working very hard to get back to just being us. He has been pretty good, but he is not the same man of some 30 yrs of marriage. Some say he went through a mid-life crisis. He is now more self-centered, which is not who he always was. I still have the suspicion of him cheating, but have never found one ounce of proof. But that thought never leaves and I need help to get it out of my head. I want to just relax, stay calm, and enjoy life, but without trusting him to not lie to me again is killing me. Wow, great article. I have been married for 25 yrs to a wonderful man. Oh, I love him with all my heart. He has always been a very hard worker and together we have a great life. He has always been very supportive of my career and i am proud of him. A few years ago he quit is job that he disliked and started his own trucking company. It was all daytime work, so he is home everyday. He loves the freedom and independence and it was going great. You have always had high standards and are respected by everyone because of your morals. But, he continued. Then he started changing. He was angry, short tempered, complaining about things that he would always just blow off. He became a little distant but with our work schedules I did get alarmed. Then I also started asking myself questions of what is going on here? He actually cried and said no, why would you say something like that. I would never, I love you. I lost my trust in him. I started looking at his phone, email and bank accounts. I never found anything that was a red flag, but my head strong self was in self defense mode now. I might have gotten mad but it would not have caused a huge argument. We are working hard to get everything back together, but I am having real issues with trusting him. 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Everyone always blames the other man or woman, but who knew they were married the most? They choose to go. I pay close attention to lots of things, body language will speak louder than words sometimes. Me and my fiance just had our son two months old now and I am so crushed I feel like im in a depression. Tell me if im wrong pls. Finding porn on his new phone an I show him but he says idk how that got there. Constantly flirting or checking out weman right in front of me an says he what? I am almost 25 an he is almost 40 is it the age difference? She has even stolen things of mine and moves my things so she has room. I am a prisoner in my own house stuck in my room or gone all day parked at safeway talking to my mom balling my eyes out an all she wants me to do is leave an move where she lives her first grandbaby!! Then i have to pick up my fiance from work an get him his beer then I am ignored unless he wants oral sex while he is thinking of someone else. That all she tells her mom its very messed up then just walks by says hi to them then sits outside smoking ciggerttes on his phone trying to leave somewhere. Im sorry.. I have nobody to talk to. Also i have in all fairness tryed to understand from his perspective thinking what has made him become hateful toward me well I do nag and complain alot but its because I argue about always having to be responseable for a grown man. I even tryed to be understand he just got out of prison August 11 served 2 years so I figured he was just like a 21 hr old an he would soon get over it but no it has progressed an instead of lovers or even aquantances, I have to be like his parent… I bit off more that I can chew.. They are leaches sucking me completely bone dry nothing left to spare.. I am the liar. I have been with my husband since and we have been married since So I would hide that I met up with my girlfriends. We live 6 hours apart and only see each other every other weekend. 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We are meant to be getting engaged , Married an he says he wants to spend the rest of his life with me I know he loves me dearly but i cant be with a liar or so eone whom i think is lying It takes me away from my normal chirpy self Have i been to hard on him? It has been stressful without him at home an vice versa for him I also know that guys Do that because they go into there own little fantasy land where they dont have to worrry about anything but themselves … He told me that he only did it because i have been stressing him out to much he didnt need to worry about anything whilst wanking to some random He was crying over it also because he dosent want me to think he is a liar , player ect Im no innocent ive watched porn but would never not tell him I feel betrayed an all i need right now is stability an someone i can rely on an know they will be there for me esp with this huge move Any advice would be magic cheers. I definitely need help with a similar story. My wife does not have an income, because she does not work. We have two little girls, so we decided she stays home to look after the kids. So our only source of income is my job. I work for a State University and earn pretty good amount of money to sustain our living expenses. My family does well back home and really does not need money from me on a regular basis, unless there is a problem. She kind of lives under pressure from her family. I always suspect that there might be something going on. Now I discovered that my wife has some cash, she is planning to send it, without me knowing it, to her family. How do I handle this? I lived with lies from day 1 of our marriage when our honeymoon trip turned out to be on a nude beach. I knew nothing about this and had to deal with his embarrassing behavior for a week. I knew that I was sleeping a lot and latter found out he had been drugging me and going out to do his thing. I was so naive and did not totally realize the extent of his lies until after his suicide, 3 years ago. I went though his phone and saw the real person that I as married to was not even the person that I thought I married. I cannot believe I was so gullible for 20 years. Now I am 63 and trying to start over is almost impossible. He said he wanted children when we married but he would not do any thing to improve his ability to get me pregnant. So here I am, over 60, no children or grandchildren, and no husband trying to find a new life for myself. Do not wait your entire life to realize what a narcissistic psychotic person can do to destroy your life and their own. Over 1,, couples and , pastors and counselors can't be wrong: Having devoted the past 25 years to research, writing and speaking on pre-marriage education, Les and Leslie are renowned experts in the field. Reasons Spouses Lie There are many reasons your spouse may be dishonest with you. Kaylee Joseph says: June 29, at 2: June 29, at 5: Pamela says: March 7, at 1: July 26, at 5: Bertha green says: August 23, at 1: Susan says: August 17, at 3: Allieyin smull says: August 14, at 9: Savitri says: June 29, at 3: Ronda says: December 8, at Tony says: December 21, at 7: Taylor says: April 27, at 2: Topher says: May 25, at 5: This fear and hopeless of finding employment needs to be overcome if it is causing an issue in the marriage. Where they make up a completely different story of events and elude to the person they are losing their memory and mind. Anyone is susceptible to gas-lighting it can be a common technique of compulsive liars. The couple will argue that completely different incidents happened and accuse the other of losing their mind. Of course different perceptions are common when drinking alcohol, however when it becomes frequent gas-lighting can be an abusive form of manipulation. Disguising failure or perceived failure is the number one reason many men will lie. Although women can and do lie to avoid the shame attached to failure also. This often includes diverting blame onto others. The person wants to avoid responsibility so they blame other people or things. This can be a severe problem in all relationships. As it makes it almost impossible to rebuild trust, for trust to grow, acceptance of responsibility for actions and consequences is critical. Avoiding shame links in to the self-esteem section, the need for approval is linked with not feeling good enough with people knowing the truth. When they met Rob lied about his wealth, car, properties and job. Nicky found out later that he was unemployed and spent his days in arcades and pubs. He was too ashamed to say he was struggling to find work and that he was living with his parents. Childhood trauma can be at the heart of compulsive lying in later years. This is when deception gets associated as having a positive advantage to telling the truth. Compulsive Lying Disorder Reason 6 Parental modelling. Parental modelling can be a determinant in pathological lying. Claire was compulsively lying to her husband and they were heading for divorce because of it before I met them. When Claire and I examined the roots of her lying, it became apparent it was from watching her mother lie to her father. Her father worked away often and she heard her mother frequently lying about drinking alcohol, about how much money she was spending and what things cost. Her mother would also consistently lie about her social life, more specifically how often she left the house at night. Her mother seemed to revel in the lies and would wink and smile at Claire when she did made them. Compulsive Lying Disorder Reason 7 Avoid intimacy. Suddenly, you're wracking your brain for how to make it up to your partner for being insensitive to his needs. He's shifting the blame to you and even making you feel like the guilty one. On PsychologyToday. This discomfort can be used in the liar's favor. You bring up some strange credit card charges and your partner breaks down about his grandma's cancer Even if the sob story were true, it still wouldn't justify the lying. A pathological liar knows our natural response is one of empathy and pity and they use it full to their advantage. I remember my ex-husband screaming at me with such a cold look in his eyes that I completely forgot what I was upset about in the first place. Reacting with anger is another technique used by the pathological liar. You try to have an open discussion about something that just isn't adding up, and he erupts in a rage. You immediately shut down. At first maybe you're upset and pissed right back. Ignore them. When the compulsive liar in your life starts on a real life version of two truths and a lie, ignore it. If you know it's cockamamie, don't pay it any attention. When your response to, " I once bred ferrets for the Queen of England," is "Oh," not only will they probably get the hint, but you might be able to have some fun with it, too. It is possible to gloss over their lies. Society tells us to be nice and to pay attention to what people to say and to care about their words -- but they're breaking all the rules, so you can too. If they ask why you're giving them the cold shoulder, be honest. You don't want to give their lies any more attention than they deserve. Be patient. This person has a problem that is not easy to be helped. Try your best to be patient with them. We all are fighting battles -- theirs just happens to be quite irritating to everyone else. Talk to someone else that's in the same circle as both of you. You'll feel a lot better having someone else on your side that you know is also going through something similar. You can combine forces and figure out how to confront the problem in a constructive way. Don't feel the need to call them out on everything. When the lies range from, "I refilled the toilet paper, yes," to "I once shaved Britney Spears' head for her," it's clear that you're going to have to pick your battles. Let the small ones go maybe you can ignore those and confront the big ones -- if you're not too exhausted! If you do choose to call them out on some, choose the ones you don't understand. It makes sense to make yourself look good, to make others envy you, but why lie about the amount of mayo left in the fridge? Start a discussion, if you're feeling up to it. Offer a way out before you address the lie. When you've spotted a lie the size of an elephant, it's not wise to be all, "You lying waste of space! That's obviously not true. Instead form the first stage of your "accusation" more nicely, where the accused has a chance to right their wrong. Let's say you find out that your boyfriend didn't go over to his mom's this afternoon to help her around the house. Instead of saying, "Hey. I talked to your mom," start off with, "Hon, did you go to your mom's today? Why did you lie? Disrupt the habit over and over. It's the first time that's going to be the most awkward. After that, it's all downhill. When you catch them lying, let them know that what was said is "not accurate" or "not valid" -- but don't act as if you are the judge and jury. Just being direct while remaining calm, cool and clear is enough. It's going to take you calling them out time and time again for them to get the picture. But soon enough, like when a bell rings and food is presented, they'll know that when they lie, the habit will get disrupted. The main obstacle? Patience on your part. Allude to their lying patterns. This one is messy territory. You need to let them know you're onto their act without saying, "I'm onto your act. So next time your friend says, "Yeah, I disarmed bombs for the CIA back in '09," you can say, "Is that just about as true as the story you told about caging ferrets for a living? You're not holding grudges; there's a difference. You're simply letting them know that their history of lying is now taking its toll on whether or not you believe a dang word that comes out of their mouth. That's rational, logical, and hard to refute -- they know it's true. Suggest therapy. Another kicker that's touchy. Shrinks are for anyone who wants to better themselves. If you've been to therapy or are close to someone who has, use it as example. Many people view going to therapy as a weakness when really it is a positive, life-affirming thing. Know the difference between a pathological liar and a scumbag. If you're dating someone and you found out they don't make six figures and they've been cheating on you and no, they don't speak French fluently, odds are your ex is just a sad excuse for a human being. People who lie to make themselves sound good or to get away with certain behavior are just small-minded, inconsiderate, not-worth-your-time morons. They're not pathological liars. People deserving of this title lie about everything. They lie about things that don't impress people, that don't make them feel good about themselves or others feel good about themselves or really that serve any purpose at all. They'll tell you they saw a duck on the lake yesterday and there's no lake. It's just like breathing. They do it naturally. Understand why they lie..

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If they ask why you're giving them the cold shoulder, be honest. You don't want to give their lies any more attention than they deserve. Be patient. This person has a problem that is not easy to be helped.

Try your best to be patient with them. We all are fighting battles -- theirs just happens to be quite irritating to everyone else. Talk to someone else that's in the same circle as both of you. You'll feel a lot better having someone else on your side that you know is also going through something similar. You can combine forces and figure out how to confront the problem in a constructive way.

Don't feel the need to call them out on everything. When the lies range from, "I refilled the toilet paper, yes," to "I once shaved Britney Spears' head for her," it's clear that you're going to have to pick your battles.

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That's obviously not true. Instead form the first stage of your "accusation" more nicely, where the accused has a chance to right their wrong. Let's say you find out that your boyfriend didn't go over to his mom's this afternoon to help her around the house. Instead of saying, Granny swallow. I talked to your mom," start off with, "Hon, did you go to your mom's today?

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Transparency and trust are crucial for not only a healthy and happy marriage, for a passionate one also. If you are married to a compulsive liar and feeling confused, frustrated and exhausted — then you are not alone.

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How do you How to deal with a pathological liar husband with them? Well, for starters, very carefully. If you want to keep them in your life and you have every right not tothen you have to stay calm and learn to deal with them without losing your patience. This article was co-authored by our trained team of editors and researchers who validated it for accuracy and comprehensiveness. Social Nuisances. Learn more. It also received 16 testimonials from readers, earning it our reader-approved status.

Learn more Be on guard and prepare. Give yourself enough mental preparation to accept that you cannot trust this person and take what How to deal with a pathological liar husband said as not reliable. Expect a potentially different outcome than would otherwise be anticipated or promised. In other words? Remember who you're dealing with. When we love someone, it's easy to forget reality.

It's easy to get our hopes up and to give the person the benefit of the doubt. It's easy to think that this person is good. Unfortunately, in this situation, you can't really do that. You'll need to be on the lookout.

Keep records. Not exactly the funnest thing to do in a relationship, but it can prove really handy. If you need to make sure you're not the crazy one or you're not the one blowing things out of proportion, it's wise to keep a notebook of the incidents.

Or if you're in a situation where you start couples therapy, you can offer it up as documentation of the problem. It'll also help fuel your memory. There may come a time How to deal with a pathological liar husband you go, "You know, that one time where I got angry at you because you lied about the thing at the place with the statue Why did they lie about that anyway? Keep the focus on the relationship. Instead of constantly being on their rear about being a raging liar, keep the attention on the quality of your relationship.

Their lies are deteriorating the trust between you two. You still care for them, but their behavior is making it hard to here happy with them. It's not about the liar, it's about the lies and about the two of you. Know not to trust behavior in the heat of the moment. If a big lie presents itself, you may see the liar telling the truth.

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Some pathological liars, however, won't do this. They'll sit and stare at you and that's the only admission of guilt you're going to get.

You may have to be appeased with just that. Know that they know you know. That's worth something. Ignore them. When the compulsive liar in your life starts on a real life version of two truths and a lie, ignore it.

If read more know it's cockamamie, don't pay it any attention. When your response to, " I once bred ferrets for the Queen of England," is "Oh," not only will they probably get the hint, but you might be able to have some fun with it, too.

It is possible to gloss over their lies. Society tells us to be nice and to pay attention to what people to say and to care about their words -- but they're breaking all the rules, so you can too. If they ask why you're giving them the cold shoulder, be honest. You don't want to give their lies any more attention than they deserve.

The effects of loving a pathological liar can be devastating — from emotional abuse to manipulative behavior to aggression — people who love pathological liars risk their emotional and physical health.

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Don't feel the need to call them out on everything. When the lies range from, "I refilled the toilet paper, yes," to "I once shaved Britney Spears' head for her," it's clear that you're going to have to pick your battles.

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Just being How to deal with a pathological liar husband while remaining calm, cool and clear is enough. It's going to take you calling them out time and time again for them to get the picture. But soon enough, like when a bell rings and food is presented, they'll know that when they lie, the habit will get disrupted.

The main obstacle? Patience on your part.

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Amateur sexting Watch Amateur threesome porn gif Video gifyporn. Avoiding shame links in to the self-esteem section, the need for approval is linked with not feeling good enough with people knowing the truth. When they met Rob lied about his wealth, car, properties and job. Nicky found out later that he was unemployed and spent his days in arcades and pubs. He was too ashamed to say he was struggling to find work and that he was living with his parents. Childhood trauma can be at the heart of compulsive lying in later years. This is when deception gets associated as having a positive advantage to telling the truth. Compulsive Lying Disorder Reason 6 Parental modelling. Parental modelling can be a determinant in pathological lying. Claire was compulsively lying to her husband and they were heading for divorce because of it before I met them. When Claire and I examined the roots of her lying, it became apparent it was from watching her mother lie to her father. Her father worked away often and she heard her mother frequently lying about drinking alcohol, about how much money she was spending and what things cost. Her mother would also consistently lie about her social life, more specifically how often she left the house at night. Her mother seemed to revel in the lies and would wink and smile at Claire when she did made them. Compulsive Lying Disorder Reason 7 Avoid intimacy. As a relationship expert, I have successfully helped countless men and women break their fears of intimacy. For Tim hiding his feelings, whereabouts and thoughts were essential for him to stay in a relationship. If someone got too close, that would be it, he would need to end the relationship. In fact most of his life he was more comfortable with short flings and casual arrangements. He tried a few times to make relationships work but always got cold feet. He wanted a family life and relationship in many ways, but on the other hand, it did scare him. This is where men and women crave attention and affection and will make efforts to date and meet people, but as soon as they get close to something serious, they run a mile. Nearly always this is because of previous relationship or childhood pain. Typically where a significant loss has occurred, shame humiliation or breach of trust and love. Compulsive Lying Disorder Reason 8 Addiction. The most common habitual lying I see in my work as a marriage counselor and coach is lies being told to cover up an addiction or obsession. If you have seen him unflinchingly and convincingly tell a lie to someone else, stop right there; you are living with a stone cold liar. You may try to rationalize that he would never lie to you, in fact, he only lied to protect you! But if he can lie to someone else with ease, he can, and will, do it to you. Pathological liars will often lie about small, unimportant things that may leave you scratching your head. Pay attention to these supposedly insignificant lies. A liar is a liar. There are different types and levels of lying, but if you suspect that you love a pathological liar, talk to a counselor or therapist. Your primary care physician is also a great resource. Every case is different; determine what is safe for you and your situation. Keep in mind though that pathological liars rarely, if ever, change their ways, and so my advice is to seek help for yourself first. If you determine that your pathological liar is also on the psychopathy spectrum, your only recourse is going no contact. Setting off on my own with a newborn baby was the hardest thing I've ever done, but it also made me into a stronger, deeper, and more empathetic person. She has enough pride for 7 people and admitting things she is pinned on will not happen. I hate phony. During our dating stages, our relationship was amazing even though at one point she lied to me about her best friend being a guy. I met all her friends but this particular guy was different. I told her that it would hv been weird, yes, but seeing her with a straight face lied in my face was pretty scary because it would make me question whether or not she is lying again. Her statement was.. Then she said she did it because she knew it would upset me. It has been an up battle. This incident with her coworker happened on Thanksgiving night. Last weekend, her work had a Christmas party. At one point, we even video chat showing me the party people at her table. I texted her, called her without any answers. At first I thought she had fallen asleep because she sounded tired frm the night before but again my gut instinct told me otherwise. I felt like a bucket of ice water had been poured on me. She has literally turned the table on me why she has lied all these times. I told her it is difficult to let go when issues keep happening even after we got married. I hv been doing alot of soul searching. I love her, yes….. Do I want it to work…, yes. Reading yours posts makes me question so much about me…. I know for a fact if something happens again especially with alcohol she will continue blaming me for her deceiving actions. So the only thing I do now is pray to see what God has storaged for us. This last incident happened this past weekend. I feel confused. I feel like I am working way to hard to believe her now but most of all my inner peace has been shattered. This is what happened for being a hopeless romantic I guess. I will appreciate any feedback whether or not those lies will continue frm your point of view. I keep catching him in his lies and keep forgiving him. The night before our wedding I asked him if he has anything to tell me before our big day, i told him that this is your chance to come clean before our wedding. He said to me to my face he has nothing to hide. He said it is a friend and he calls her to ask advice about the issues and problems that goes on in our relationship. I absolutely will not trust him ever again. If anyone has any advice besides keep fighting, will be great. God bless us all. I know your pain. This will not end soon, if it ends at all. She has a problem with alcohol and she lies about other things as well. Liars are liars. I am in almost exact same situation as you. It was an Indian arranged marriage. Knew him about 3 months before marriage. He is very loving towards me, shops for me, we travelled to different countries. He even said he is going to tell everyone and shame me. Next day he would say sorry. I let go multiple incidents and then slowly the lies about drinking. Lies about every small thing , sams time he would care for me very much.. Everyone said you are so lucky. Another drinking incident and when I confronted he left me in the middle of the night , threw my clothes in the hotel room and took all the suitcases. He did all this in front of my and his friends. He made up stuff that I am not capable of having kids. Days of drinking continued and fights. I figured through find iPhone that he actually went to Bangkok. When I texted he just kept lying about the hotel he is staying and that he is going to meet people for his work. It shattered me like someone kicks me in my stomach. Next he messaged saying he lied and that he is not drinking but no apology. Left it in limbo. I miss the good things he did.. Or was all this attention an act? Maybe he never really felt sorry for his acts.. Why I still want this to work.. Absolutely true! My husband lies about everything, especially in ways dt damage my character to his family and friends. I have put up with it for d longest time but no more. Satan is indeed d father of liars. Amen Savannah!!! Thank goodness I continued to read down thru comments to find yours!!! ALL ungodly behviors. I remained is this hellish nightmare with my unrepentant, non sorrowful husband for 17 years. He became adapt at tuning into exactly what he believes equipped him to continue in his wicked behavior…as the few times he did attend any church services…. Sorry for the rant…but I made a very huge and costly mistake of listening to early advice for church leaders.. Early on after consulting, crying and pleading for help in addressing these ongoing habitual lies…intentional withholding of intimacy as form of punishment…I was told to find ways to better please him…and that if I loved him enough…I would be able to get him to do anything i want! THAT is what one pastor of a very large church told me! How pathetic. I pray for women who are faced with these horrendous issues…I pray that they have courage to trust in the Almighty YAHVEH Elohim that created them…and through their steadfast obedience to HIM and in love for their Savior Yeshua of Natzaret, they are able to break free from the bondage and wickedness of their spouses unrepentant, rebelliousness towards our Heavenly FAther. HOW in the world is anyone ever able to bear fruit being yoked up with a rotten branch? She is old enough to know the TRUTH of the wickedness at hand…and that I have had to place NO Contact in order to further protect her from his very unbalanced views of women! I refuse to allow him to exploit her! Long reply I know… i suppose there is therapy in sharing our most hurtful and disappointing encounters. I committed myself to the marriage regardless of the many times I discovered and tried to address his ongoing sinning against the LORD and myself. He made the choices…not me. I am a godly woman I have lots of faith I believe that God does not make mistakes and throttle is as a reason pfor everything so I will continue praying for him but because of my illnessI may be off for another six months or more, so I have a year to get my life together. In Jesus love, Cat. My husband has had a LIFE-long history of lying, which I just found out about in the past couple of years. It was SOOO hard to find out that he has lied thousands upon thousands of times, about all kinds of things. In this case, it totally had to do with his upbringing. We all blunder through life and grow in the process; this is why we need to give each other mercy, grace, and forgiveness. SO — when he got married, and his wife was having her own troubles with anger and criticism because of HER family of origin! For example, he might call and say he was just leaving work when he had really been at the bank making a deposit. Why would he lie about that? So he would lie just to avoid that unpleasantness. This is not putting the blame for lying on the victim, but rather, seeing the reason behind the lying. You have to see the reason behind it before you can dig out of it. So we both had to work at it: He showed me how I was being unkind and disrespectful — not intentionally! I have always respected my husband, and told others how great he was, etc.! Lying is wrong. NO contesting that fact. Wow Sammi. I was always faithful, loyal, honest, loving, etc. I found out he was addicted to porn. So even though, I loved him properly, and did all the right things, I still got hurt. Is it so hard to find a partner who has the same qualities, morals and values nowadays? I so confused, hurt, depressed by all this. I also have a tiny bit of hope for us, but it is so hard. Sammi, thank you for taking the time to write such a beautiful and compassionate response to this question. You have spoken to a deep issues and patterns that my husband and I share with you. I want you to know that your words helped us see our struggles in a new light. Years he convinced me there was something wrong with me. Those author encourage setting boundaries and use not tolerating lying or deceit in a relationship as one of them. Sorry, and I so enjoy many of your articles and books. Good comments. People are different and marriage is no exception. Whether seeking counseling or working on marital problems among each other, it takes a great amount of grace and love when one has been wronged with lying. When you bring in the porn factor, it can be very difficult to put a relationship back together, if there was one in the beginning. I have been there and back with this issue and would agree with all the comments to some degree, but good counseling will look at each person, ask Holy Spirit how to speak into their lives, because only He can cause a heart change in an individual. It is true boundaries are necessary, truth is a must, and lying must stop for any relationship to exist and flourish, but not everyone gets to that point by following a formula, certain boundaries, or confrontation. Holy Spirit is the Great Spirit of Counseling and can lead as to how to counsel. I am thinking of the Scripture that says the Love of God brings men to repentance. My husband lies constantly also. We have been married for 30 years and for the last 10 years, I have lowered my expectations from him to almost nothing. I feel like I am living with an enemy and I have to watch my back as well as the back of my 4 daughters. I stayed in the marriage because I was taught as a Christian you stay in the marriage unless you are being physically abused ie he is breaking the law. I thought I was doing the right thing but unfortunately my daughters have paid a huge price. Anxiety issues, eating issues, and now my youngest 21 years old has had a child who lives with us too. I quickly saw that the father is also very selfish narcissistic I would say so I encouraged my daughter to break off their relationship and co-parent their daughter separately. My husband does not like us criticizing the father but I am firm that my daughter needs to quickly learn what is going on with him and make adjustments to her behaviour to be able to do the best for her daughter and finish school. The only way I know to deal with this is to hang on tight to the Lord and pray for wisdom each day and for the rapture to come quickly. Its too much. Pull down each brick in the wall of lies…. Every once in a while I will pull down a brick, if the facts are obvious but his response is usually rage. If he lies about what has happened in the past, I end the conversation. I am so sorry to read this. My heart breaks for you: Have you considered separation? I think that it would not be unbiblical to separate. You ARE being abused if you are constantly being lied to. Mental and emotional abuse is every bit as damaging as physical. And for the very same reasons you counseled your daughter to be separated from the unhealthy, ungodly man who is the father of her child, I think you need to consider being separate from the man who is unhealthy and ungodly who is the father of your children. No matter what his claims whether he claims to be a Christian or not , constant lying is ungodly, and if after 30 years he is still subjecting his wife to constant lying, that boundary needs to be set in place, and he needs to experience the consequences of breaking his marriage covenant. This most certainly precludes lying. He must not have the benefits of marriage without the responsibilities. Again, I very much realize this is unsolicited advice, and apologize for that. I just felt compelled to share that with you. Praying that God guides you into HIS truth. My relationship with my wife started with her cheating on me. She became pregnant and only after a DNA test I knew he was mine. We did get married as I was taught to as well to do everything to keep a relationship together. A few years later she cheated again, this time with multiple people at once. I filed for divorce and she begged that she would change. Then she even forged checks out of my business account. I filled for divorce again and the lies continue. After a bad weekend just know, we have restraining orders against each other. She called a pastor of the church and said she wants it to be fixed the same day she filed a restraining order on me. I did go to the counselor separately only to have the counselor now texting me that I was deceitful to her and that I have caused her to be a liar. I am remarried as my first husband was very abusive. I feel my husband now, lied to me before we were married. I asked wat that meant and he said he liked to have a couple drinks when he was with friends. I do not drink as I had a problem with drinking in my youth and my children n my families are riddled with alcoholics. I had explained this to my hubby n how I felt about alcohol. Shortly after we married he started having a drink in the evening, after a hot day, after a hard day,etc. I tried talking to him and he just blew me off like I was the crazy over reacting one. I found out from some of his family members that alcohol had been an issue in his 1st marriage. I hav seen my hubby drunk but confronting him does no good. I talked to him about how i felt it was not safe and that i feel he is giving his son mixed messages about it being ok to get drunk n drive to boot. He was not going to get after his son about drinking. I also have a daughter who struggles with alcohol and my hubby drinks in front of her. I feel so deceived and lied to and stuck. Am I crazy and over reacting.. It would be nice to hear back from the author of this article as to the comments left here. The stories really prove that lying is one of the most sure ways to destroy a relationship, no matter what the reason behind the lie is. Spewing accusations in an angry, dramatic way is never helpful. All it achieves is making them defensive, which achieves them defensively fighting back, injuring you more and worsening the situation. Stating your observations factually, reaching out for clarification is a healthy thing to do. I also understood the article to say that if you are in a severe situation, you probably need the care of a professional to help you negotiate it. The difficulty in imposing this plan would depend on the severity of the betrayal and how long the secrets were kept. Before my own experience with the trauma of betrayal, I would have said these words were right on and reasonable. Then the fallout that proceeds in the days and months sometimes years to come can be extreme and confusing. Rage, sorrow and extreme emotional upheaval after a betrayal…although I wish they were able to be controlled…have a life of their own. I too am going through it. My husband is a Liar and it has been very difficult. I try my hardest to be a good wife and follow God, but at times my anger blinds me. No matter what I say or do, I am always covering up for a man with no moral character. The lies and betrayal have left me scarred. Not sure what to do anymore because everyone is tired of me and I am tired of telling my stories.. I am hearing 2 versions of the story and he is forbidding me to contact her. Everyone covers for my husband bc he makes everyone laugh but the Demons I live with and the things I see give me no peace. I long for peace and a husband who can contribute to my marriage financially. I am holding it strong paying all the bills for what? To keep being put in embarrassing situations?? I feel alone, confused, and tired of living a lie. Smiling when I am dying inside.. He wallows in woh is me and suffers from depression anxiety and infirmity. What to do next … should I stand and believe for my man of God? This is abuse. Been married 41 years. Early on I was 20 immature. He physically abused meStayedbout all night and said he was home, I was there. Always screwing w my head. Looked great became great cook we had good times yet he was cold lied made me feel awful. My health has suffered too My head wants him to suffer and my heart loves him my head wants him gone my heart not. I pray God continuously gives me strength everyday even when I have days that my faith is fractured, again. I understand your pain and have stayed in a toxic relationship for 6 years trying to get this man to love me as much as I love him, and the fear of being alone and not finding someone to love and would love me back. These choices are hard, and I keep praying that God will help guide and change him. I just want someone to love me for me, good and bad. I can understand what you are talking about. I feel why cannot I find someone who loves me and I can trust. I want to live the most full and happy life and this man I am with is so untrustworthy and betrays me. Hang in there! I found after 23yrs that my wife lied about her sexual history and several other major things such as finances and our business. My wife told me about her past but many things hidden. After finding out she had lied various times to me we saw two different marriage counselors, my wife lied to the first one and after several sessions of being called out on her lies quit going. She is already distancing us from the second one. Who knew when searching for help there would be others, many others like me in a toxic marriage like mine. My husband has been lying to me since before our marriage but I found out after we were married just how much a compulsive liar he really is. He told me he graduated HS. And I would always forgive him. Find out he lied about how much money was on the card or maybe his check was short or whatever the case may be. These examples were very earlier on in our marriage. Now he just lies about stupid stuff like going to the dentist. I get a call from our dentist recently asking if my husband would be making up his appointments? I say what are you talking about, he made his appointments. They said no Mrs….. They are lying. Ok lets call them on 3 way. We get them on the phone, he talks and says he was there. She pulls the file, no Mr……. I had heard enough. I thanked her and hung up. But it was necessary. For 3 months this dude was acting like he was going to work. And I always refute this by saying dude you were lying to me when we were dating, way before we got married. This was before me. Bring out the violins. The dentist debacle just happened, and it takes the cake. I want him gone!!! I have never caught him cheating or suspecting anything like that. I saved our home. I clean up the finances, I keep stability around our children even though I want to break down, I act like Mary Poppins, like all is well. The odds were against us already. Everyone thinks we have the perfect marriage. He cooks, cleans, for the most part loving. No affairs, gainfully employed, Good mom. He is a good person, just not to me. I feel like I deserve so much better. But I have no one else to talk to about this. Thanks for listening and any advice please share. So many heartbreaking stories. But how do you deal with the lies. So quick to lie, so easily adjusting the facts to fit her story. These seem to be a skin of truth, filled with a big fat lie. Not Helpful 1 Helpful Tom De Backer. Not Helpful 3 Helpful My boyfriend lies, then admits his lies, but he later tries to flip the script and make me the guilty party when I call him on his lies. What do I do? Have self-respect, you don't have to accept this. You should leave him. Tell him you can't stand his attitude, that you dislike compulsive liars that want to blame other people instead of admitting their mistakes, and tell him that you'll leave him. Not Helpful 4 Helpful What if the liar is my mother? I am torn to what extent I should allow her in my life, and around my daughters her grandchildren , in particular. Family will always be family; however, you are responsible for the well being of your children. If being around their grandmother is bad for them, then limit that as much as you like and supervise their time together. Make sure to tell your mother what you are doing and why. Not Helpful 2 Helpful How do I deal with a compulsive liar who is lying to get someone arrested? An arrest is an official case. Human decent also compels you to share what you know. Continue to love her but also be very clear when you don't believe something. Tell her that she cannot treat you with such disrespect because you have birth to her and you know her inside out. Ask her to consider why she needs to lie in order to get along with everyone and suggest that she has therapy to learn more effective communication skills so that she can lead a happier and more fulfilling life down the track. Just be sure to remind her how much you love her, and that you're supporting of her journey to undo the lying. Not Helpful 7 Helpful My sister is a compulsive liar and my parents always believe her no matter what. She keeps getting me in trouble. How do I handle this? I have had the same issue. You need to first look at why your parents always believe her. What's the reason? Then you need to tackle the issue. For me it was because she had a closer relationship and told them things first so when I came to them, they had already formed an opinion. It may be wise to have an open and honest conversation first with your parents. If that doesn't work, I would obtain proof of her lies and show it to them. Not Helpful 5 Helpful Does a compulsive liar lie to everybody or just the person he is with? They lie compulsively in the moment regardless of who they're speaking to. Not Helpful 0 Helpful 4. It's possible, but highly doubtful. The compulsive liar would have to figure out why she is lying unnecessarily in the first place. All you can do is gradually lead her to the point where she feels the need to look into her compulsion. In the meantime, you either have to accept her the way she is, let the small lies go and fight only for the big ones or leave the liar to herself. Not Helpful 9 Helpful My husband is a compulsive liar and I don't know if I should stay in this marriage. He doesn't seem to feel remorse or even really think it's wrong. Confront him about it. Tell him how you feel and that you are disappointed in his behavior, and show you're being serious. Tell him that if he continues like that, you'll have to leave him, because you don't want to stay with someone you can't trust. If he seems like he wants to change, consider couples counseling. If nothing works, follow through and leave him. Include your email address to get a message when this question is answered. Already answered Not a question Bad question Other. Tips It's not just you. They lie to everyone. This is all about them and has nothing to do with your worth or things you've made them do. Warnings Do not lose your cool. Heated arguments will get neither of you anywhere. This person will behave this way with everyone and should seek help. Best case scenario? Eventually it is different with everyone they may realize how they are hurting those around them and in-turn, hurting themselves as well. Edit Related wikiHows..

So How to deal with a pathological liar husband time your friend says, "Yeah, I disarmed bombs for the CIA back in '09," you can say, "Is that just about as true as the story you told about caging ferrets for a living? You're not holding grudges; there's a difference. You're simply letting them know that their history of lying is now taking its toll on whether or not you believe a dang word that comes out of their mouth.

That's rational, logical, and hard to refute -- they know it's true. Suggest therapy. Another kicker that's touchy. Shrinks are for anyone who wants to better themselves. If you've been to therapy or are close to someone who has, use it as example.

Free sextimg Watch Pervcity tiffany dolls anal lesson from mike adriano Video Limburg sex. It's the first time that's going to be the most awkward. After that, it's all downhill. When you catch them lying, let them know that what was said is "not accurate" or "not valid" -- but don't act as if you are the judge and jury. Just being direct while remaining calm, cool and clear is enough. It's going to take you calling them out time and time again for them to get the picture. But soon enough, like when a bell rings and food is presented, they'll know that when they lie, the habit will get disrupted. The main obstacle? Patience on your part. Allude to their lying patterns. This one is messy territory. You need to let them know you're onto their act without saying, "I'm onto your act. So next time your friend says, "Yeah, I disarmed bombs for the CIA back in '09," you can say, "Is that just about as true as the story you told about caging ferrets for a living? You're not holding grudges; there's a difference. You're simply letting them know that their history of lying is now taking its toll on whether or not you believe a dang word that comes out of their mouth. That's rational, logical, and hard to refute -- they know it's true. Suggest therapy. Another kicker that's touchy. Shrinks are for anyone who wants to better themselves. If you've been to therapy or are close to someone who has, use it as example. Many people view going to therapy as a weakness when really it is a positive, life-affirming thing. Know the difference between a pathological liar and a scumbag. If you're dating someone and you found out they don't make six figures and they've been cheating on you and no, they don't speak French fluently, odds are your ex is just a sad excuse for a human being. People who lie to make themselves sound good or to get away with certain behavior are just small-minded, inconsiderate, not-worth-your-time morons. They're not pathological liars. People deserving of this title lie about everything. They lie about things that don't impress people, that don't make them feel good about themselves or others feel good about themselves or really that serve any purpose at all. They'll tell you they saw a duck on the lake yesterday and there's no lake. It's just like breathing. They do it naturally. Understand why they lie. For most, lying is comfortable. It's the truth that's scary. If they actually are a pathological liar, it's just the symptom of a bigger problem. Possible reasons for their behavior are: Personality disorders Cluster B personalities -- sociopathic, narcissistic, borderline, histrionic, etc. Substance abuse or substance abuse in family. Know they may hate who they actually are. Many pathological liars have a serious lack of self-esteem and that's why they started lying in the first place. They got to present an image to the world that they were actually proud of, instead of the one they go home to at night and secretly disdain. While the liar doesn't deserve your pity, it's useful to understand the root of the problem. When you're dealing with yours, keep this in mind. It will help you stay more logical, rational, and calm. Instead of dealing with a careless jerk, you're dealing with a careless jerk who hates himself. Knocks him down a peg. Take care of yourself. Above all, take care of yourself first. You may be in a very serious relationship with this person, but that does not give them free reign over your emotions and your happiness. If you need to leave, get out. They don't deserve you. They can't make you happy. That's just how it is. You're not abandoning them; you're protecting you. If you do choose to stay, stay strong. You cannot help them if you cannot help yourself. Make sure your happiness is getting the spotlight. It's not your job to fix them or to change them. If you do want to stay, take it a day at a time. But always keep you in mind! What can I do if my friend is denying my allegations about being a liar? Be prepared the next time and get some solid proof of the lie to confront them. Of course different perceptions are common when drinking alcohol, however when it becomes frequent gas-lighting can be an abusive form of manipulation. Disguising failure or perceived failure is the number one reason many men will lie. Although women can and do lie to avoid the shame attached to failure also. This often includes diverting blame onto others. The person wants to avoid responsibility so they blame other people or things. This can be a severe problem in all relationships. As it makes it almost impossible to rebuild trust, for trust to grow, acceptance of responsibility for actions and consequences is critical. Avoiding shame links in to the self-esteem section, the need for approval is linked with not feeling good enough with people knowing the truth. When they met Rob lied about his wealth, car, properties and job. Nicky found out later that he was unemployed and spent his days in arcades and pubs. He was too ashamed to say he was struggling to find work and that he was living with his parents. Childhood trauma can be at the heart of compulsive lying in later years. This is when deception gets associated as having a positive advantage to telling the truth. Compulsive Lying Disorder Reason 6 Parental modelling. Parental modelling can be a determinant in pathological lying. Claire was compulsively lying to her husband and they were heading for divorce because of it before I met them. When Claire and I examined the roots of her lying, it became apparent it was from watching her mother lie to her father. Her father worked away often and she heard her mother frequently lying about drinking alcohol, about how much money she was spending and what things cost. Her mother would also consistently lie about her social life, more specifically how often she left the house at night. Her mother seemed to revel in the lies and would wink and smile at Claire when she did made them. Compulsive Lying Disorder Reason 7 Avoid intimacy. As a relationship expert, I have successfully helped countless men and women break their fears of intimacy. For Tim hiding his feelings, whereabouts and thoughts were essential for him to stay in a relationship. If someone got too close, that would be it, he would need to end the relationship. In fact most of his life he was more comfortable with short flings and casual arrangements. I have a six month old so am trying to be strategic rather than reacting…. He went gambling. I have confronted him but he just called says I m crazy. Awesome story, even some God fearing men are pathological liars and need deliverance. Counseling is great, but deliverance is what is needed. God bless you for your strength and your love to trust Him. I am not sure how Biblical this article is! How surprising! When someone lies to their spouse, turning the focus AWAY from the person doing the lying is detrimental. Satan is the father of lies. Why would be so welcoming and non-judgmental about this? The advice in this article seems to be to ask them what fault they see in the victim of the lie, so they can make excuses for themselves. This denies them being accountable for their own actions, and placing the responsibility for the lies on the person being lied to?! A Godly perspective would be to firmly make sure that person is NOT lying to protect their ego or to hurt the other person and also that it will not be tolerated. There are consequences to ungodly behavior. A person who lies to their spouse usually does not care what the lies do to their spouse and a light slap on the wrist typically makes them see their spouse as weak and will continue to lie to them. It is most definitely a character issue! You did try to bring this back around and did say some good things, but it is completely from a point of view that the person LYING is the one to be catered to. Wrong is wrong and Satan is pointed out in scripture as the father of lies. Bottom line. You are exactly right!!!! When dealing with a liar, one cannot afford to give them the opportunity to make lame excuses for their behavior. A liar, sociopaths or psychopath need to be confront head on with the truth. Well said. I felt the same way when reading this. As if to put part of the blame on the victim of the lie. Savannah, I saw the same things you brought up about this article how it was not biblical. Anything to lighten what actually happened and to avoid the truthful details. I try to work it out and I feel like a fool for being blunt yet also very forgiving over these 16 years of marriage. What I have tried so hard for in a relationship is just not happening. She has enough pride for 7 people and admitting things she is pinned on will not happen. I hate phony. During our dating stages, our relationship was amazing even though at one point she lied to me about her best friend being a guy. I met all her friends but this particular guy was different. I told her that it would hv been weird, yes, but seeing her with a straight face lied in my face was pretty scary because it would make me question whether or not she is lying again. Her statement was.. Then she said she did it because she knew it would upset me. It has been an up battle. This incident with her coworker happened on Thanksgiving night. Last weekend, her work had a Christmas party. At one point, we even video chat showing me the party people at her table. I texted her, called her without any answers. At first I thought she had fallen asleep because she sounded tired frm the night before but again my gut instinct told me otherwise. I felt like a bucket of ice water had been poured on me. She has literally turned the table on me why she has lied all these times. I told her it is difficult to let go when issues keep happening even after we got married. I hv been doing alot of soul searching. I love her, yes….. Do I want it to work…, yes. Reading yours posts makes me question so much about me…. I know for a fact if something happens again especially with alcohol she will continue blaming me for her deceiving actions. So the only thing I do now is pray to see what God has storaged for us. This last incident happened this past weekend. I feel confused. I feel like I am working way to hard to believe her now but most of all my inner peace has been shattered. This is what happened for being a hopeless romantic I guess. I will appreciate any feedback whether or not those lies will continue frm your point of view. I keep catching him in his lies and keep forgiving him. The night before our wedding I asked him if he has anything to tell me before our big day, i told him that this is your chance to come clean before our wedding. He said to me to my face he has nothing to hide. He said it is a friend and he calls her to ask advice about the issues and problems that goes on in our relationship. I absolutely will not trust him ever again. If anyone has any advice besides keep fighting, will be great. God bless us all. I know your pain. This will not end soon, if it ends at all. She has a problem with alcohol and she lies about other things as well. Liars are liars. I am in almost exact same situation as you. It was an Indian arranged marriage. Knew him about 3 months before marriage. He is very loving towards me, shops for me, we travelled to different countries. He even said he is going to tell everyone and shame me. Next day he would say sorry. I let go multiple incidents and then slowly the lies about drinking. Lies about every small thing , sams time he would care for me very much.. Everyone said you are so lucky. Another drinking incident and when I confronted he left me in the middle of the night , threw my clothes in the hotel room and took all the suitcases. He did all this in front of my and his friends. He made up stuff that I am not capable of having kids. Days of drinking continued and fights. I figured through find iPhone that he actually went to Bangkok. When I texted he just kept lying about the hotel he is staying and that he is going to meet people for his work. It shattered me like someone kicks me in my stomach. Next he messaged saying he lied and that he is not drinking but no apology. Left it in limbo. I miss the good things he did.. Or was all this attention an act? Maybe he never really felt sorry for his acts.. Why I still want this to work.. Absolutely true! My husband lies about everything, especially in ways dt damage my character to his family and friends. I have put up with it for d longest time but no more. Satan is indeed d father of liars. Amen Savannah!!! Thank goodness I continued to read down thru comments to find yours!!! ALL ungodly behviors. I remained is this hellish nightmare with my unrepentant, non sorrowful husband for 17 years. He became adapt at tuning into exactly what he believes equipped him to continue in his wicked behavior…as the few times he did attend any church services…. Sorry for the rant…but I made a very huge and costly mistake of listening to early advice for church leaders.. Early on after consulting, crying and pleading for help in addressing these ongoing habitual lies…intentional withholding of intimacy as form of punishment…I was told to find ways to better please him…and that if I loved him enough…I would be able to get him to do anything i want! THAT is what one pastor of a very large church told me! How pathetic. I pray for women who are faced with these horrendous issues…I pray that they have courage to trust in the Almighty YAHVEH Elohim that created them…and through their steadfast obedience to HIM and in love for their Savior Yeshua of Natzaret, they are able to break free from the bondage and wickedness of their spouses unrepentant, rebelliousness towards our Heavenly FAther. HOW in the world is anyone ever able to bear fruit being yoked up with a rotten branch? She is old enough to know the TRUTH of the wickedness at hand…and that I have had to place NO Contact in order to further protect her from his very unbalanced views of women! I refuse to allow him to exploit her! Long reply I know… i suppose there is therapy in sharing our most hurtful and disappointing encounters. I committed myself to the marriage regardless of the many times I discovered and tried to address his ongoing sinning against the LORD and myself. He made the choices…not me. I am a godly woman I have lots of faith I believe that God does not make mistakes and throttle is as a reason pfor everything so I will continue praying for him but because of my illnessI may be off for another six months or more, so I have a year to get my life together. In Jesus love, Cat. My husband has had a LIFE-long history of lying, which I just found out about in the past couple of years. It was SOOO hard to find out that he has lied thousands upon thousands of times, about all kinds of things. In this case, it totally had to do with his upbringing. We all blunder through life and grow in the process; this is why we need to give each other mercy, grace, and forgiveness. SO — when he got married, and his wife was having her own troubles with anger and criticism because of HER family of origin! For example, he might call and say he was just leaving work when he had really been at the bank making a deposit. Why would he lie about that? So he would lie just to avoid that unpleasantness. This is not putting the blame for lying on the victim, but rather, seeing the reason behind the lying. You have to see the reason behind it before you can dig out of it. So we both had to work at it: He showed me how I was being unkind and disrespectful — not intentionally! I have always respected my husband, and told others how great he was, etc.! Lying is wrong. NO contesting that fact. Wow Sammi. I was always faithful, loyal, honest, loving, etc. I found out he was addicted to porn. So even though, I loved him properly, and did all the right things, I still got hurt. Is it so hard to find a partner who has the same qualities, morals and values nowadays? I so confused, hurt, depressed by all this. I also have a tiny bit of hope for us, but it is so hard. Sammi, thank you for taking the time to write such a beautiful and compassionate response to this question. You have spoken to a deep issues and patterns that my husband and I share with you. I want you to know that your words helped us see our struggles in a new light. Years he convinced me there was something wrong with me. Those author encourage setting boundaries and use not tolerating lying or deceit in a relationship as one of them. Sorry, and I so enjoy many of your articles and books. Good comments. People are different and marriage is no exception. Whether seeking counseling or working on marital problems among each other, it takes a great amount of grace and love when one has been wronged with lying. When you bring in the porn factor, it can be very difficult to put a relationship back together, if there was one in the beginning. I have been there and back with this issue and would agree with all the comments to some degree, but good counseling will look at each person, ask Holy Spirit how to speak into their lives, because only He can cause a heart change in an individual. It is true boundaries are necessary, truth is a must, and lying must stop for any relationship to exist and flourish, but not everyone gets to that point by following a formula, certain boundaries, or confrontation. Holy Spirit is the Great Spirit of Counseling and can lead as to how to counsel. I am thinking of the Scripture that says the Love of God brings men to repentance. My husband lies constantly also. We have been married for 30 years and for the last 10 years, I have lowered my expectations from him to almost nothing. I feel like I am living with an enemy and I have to watch my back as well as the back of my 4 daughters. I stayed in the marriage because I was taught as a Christian you stay in the marriage unless you are being physically abused ie he is breaking the law. I thought I was doing the right thing but unfortunately my daughters have paid a huge price. Anxiety issues, eating issues, and now my youngest 21 years old has had a child who lives with us too. I quickly saw that the father is also very selfish narcissistic I would say so I encouraged my daughter to break off their relationship and co-parent their daughter separately. My husband does not like us criticizing the father but I am firm that my daughter needs to quickly learn what is going on with him and make adjustments to her behaviour to be able to do the best for her daughter and finish school. The only way I know to deal with this is to hang on tight to the Lord and pray for wisdom each day and for the rapture to come quickly. Its too much. Pull down each brick in the wall of lies…. Every once in a while I will pull down a brick, if the facts are obvious but his response is usually rage. If he lies about what has happened in the past, I end the conversation. I am so sorry to read this. My heart breaks for you: Have you considered separation? I think that it would not be unbiblical to separate. You ARE being abused if you are constantly being lied to. Mental and emotional abuse is every bit as damaging as physical. And for the very same reasons you counseled your daughter to be separated from the unhealthy, ungodly man who is the father of her child, I think you need to consider being separate from the man who is unhealthy and ungodly who is the father of your children. No matter what his claims whether he claims to be a Christian or not , constant lying is ungodly, and if after 30 years he is still subjecting his wife to constant lying, that boundary needs to be set in place, and he needs to experience the consequences of breaking his marriage covenant. This most certainly precludes lying. He must not have the benefits of marriage without the responsibilities. Again, I very much realize this is unsolicited advice, and apologize for that. I just felt compelled to share that with you. Praying that God guides you into HIS truth. My relationship with my wife started with her cheating on me. She became pregnant and only after a DNA test I knew he was mine. We did get married as I was taught to as well to do everything to keep a relationship together. A few years later she cheated again, this time with multiple people at once. I filed for divorce and she begged that she would change. Then she even forged checks out of my business account. I filled for divorce again and the lies continue. After a bad weekend just know, we have restraining orders against each other. She called a pastor of the church and said she wants it to be fixed the same day she filed a restraining order on me. I did go to the counselor separately only to have the counselor now texting me that I was deceitful to her and that I have caused her to be a liar. I am remarried as my first husband was very abusive. I feel my husband now, lied to me before we were married. I asked wat that meant and he said he liked to have a couple drinks when he was with friends. I do not drink as I had a problem with drinking in my youth and my children n my families are riddled with alcoholics. I had explained this to my hubby n how I felt about alcohol. Shortly after we married he started having a drink in the evening, after a hot day, after a hard day,etc. I tried talking to him and he just blew me off like I was the crazy over reacting one. I found out from some of his family members that alcohol had been an issue in his 1st marriage. I hav seen my hubby drunk but confronting him does no good. I talked to him about how i felt it was not safe and that i feel he is giving his son mixed messages about it being ok to get drunk n drive to boot. He was not going to get after his son about drinking. I also have a daughter who struggles with alcohol and my hubby drinks in front of her. I feel so deceived and lied to and stuck. Am I crazy and over reacting.. It would be nice to hear back from the author of this article as to the comments left here. The stories really prove that lying is one of the most sure ways to destroy a relationship, no matter what the reason behind the lie is. Spewing accusations in an angry, dramatic way is never helpful. All it achieves is making them defensive, which achieves them defensively fighting back, injuring you more and worsening the situation. Stating your observations factually, reaching out for clarification is a healthy thing to do. I also understood the article to say that if you are in a severe situation, you probably need the care of a professional to help you negotiate it. The difficulty in imposing this plan would depend on the severity of the betrayal and how long the secrets were kept. Before my own experience with the trauma of betrayal, I would have said these words were right on and reasonable. Then the fallout that proceeds in the days and months sometimes years to come can be extreme and confusing. Rage, sorrow and extreme emotional upheaval after a betrayal…although I wish they were able to be controlled…have a life of their own. I too am going through it. My husband is a Liar and it has been very difficult. I try my hardest to be a good wife and follow God, but at times my anger blinds me. No matter what I say or do, I am always covering up for a man with no moral character. The lies and betrayal have left me scarred. Not sure what to do anymore because everyone is tired of me and I am tired of telling my stories.. I am hearing 2 versions of the story and he is forbidding me to contact her. Everyone covers for my husband bc he makes everyone laugh but the Demons I live with and the things I see give me no peace. I long for peace and a husband who can contribute to my marriage financially. I am holding it strong paying all the bills for what? To keep being put in embarrassing situations?? I feel alone, confused, and tired of living a lie. Smiling when I am dying inside.. He wallows in woh is me and suffers from depression anxiety and infirmity. What to do next … should I stand and believe for my man of God? This is abuse. Been married 41 years. Early on I was 20 immature. He physically abused meStayedbout all night and said he was home, I was there. Always screwing w my head. Looked great became great cook we had good times yet he was cold lied made me feel awful. My health has suffered too My head wants him to suffer and my heart loves him my head wants him gone my heart not. I pray God continuously gives me strength everyday even when I have days that my faith is fractured, again. I understand your pain and have stayed in a toxic relationship for 6 years trying to get this man to love me as much as I love him, and the fear of being alone and not finding someone to love and would love me back. These choices are hard, and I keep praying that God will help guide and change him. I just want someone to love me for me, good and bad. I can understand what you are talking about. I feel why cannot I find someone who loves me and I can trust. I want to live the most full and happy life and this man I am with is so untrustworthy and betrays me. Hang in there! I found after 23yrs that my wife lied about her sexual history and several other major things such as finances and our business. My wife told me about her past but many things hidden. After finding out she had lied various times to me we saw two different marriage counselors, my wife lied to the first one and after several sessions of being called out on her lies quit going. She is already distancing us from the second one. Who knew when searching for help there would be others, many others like me in a toxic marriage like mine. My husband has been lying to me since before our marriage but I found out after we were married just how much a compulsive liar he really is. He told me he graduated HS. And I would always forgive him. Find out he lied about how much money was on the card or maybe his check was short or whatever the case may be. These examples were very earlier on in our marriage. Now he just lies about stupid stuff like going to the dentist. I get a call from our dentist recently asking if my husband would be making up his appointments? On PsychologyToday. This discomfort can be used in the liar's favor. You bring up some strange credit card charges and your partner breaks down about his grandma's cancer Even if the sob story were true, it still wouldn't justify the lying. A pathological liar knows our natural response is one of empathy and pity and they use it full to their advantage. I remember my ex-husband screaming at me with such a cold look in his eyes that I completely forgot what I was upset about in the first place. Reacting with anger is another technique used by the pathological liar. You try to have an open discussion about something that just isn't adding up, and he erupts in a rage. You immediately shut down. At first maybe you're upset and pissed right back. But then, when it becomes clear that your partner is not backing down from his volcanic rage, you become nervous you've somehow gone too far and pushed him over the edge. You even apologize to him for making him so angry and find yourself being more careful in the future to not set him off..

Many people view going to therapy as a weakness when really it is a positive, life-affirming thing. Know the difference between a pathological liar and a scumbag. If you're dating someone and you found out they don't make six figures and they've been cheating on you and no, they don't speak French fluently, odds are your ex is just a sad excuse for a human being.

People who lie to make themselves sound good or to get away with certain behavior are just small-minded, inconsiderate, not-worth-your-time morons.

They're not pathological liars. People deserving of this title lie about everything. How to deal with a pathological liar husband lie about things that don't impress people, that don't make them feel good about themselves or others feel good about themselves or really that serve any purpose at all.

My husband calls me liar. What should I do with my compulsive liar boyfriend? and some people never know their spouse until after 60+ years of marriage Tophatter is the app where thousands of people get amazing deals everyday.

Fuckin beach Watch College girls shaved pussy selfie Video Fuckbook register. Knocks him down a peg. Take care of yourself. Above all, take care of yourself first. You may be in a very serious relationship with this person, but that does not give them free reign over your emotions and your happiness. If you need to leave, get out. They don't deserve you. They can't make you happy. That's just how it is. You're not abandoning them; you're protecting you. If you do choose to stay, stay strong. You cannot help them if you cannot help yourself. Make sure your happiness is getting the spotlight. It's not your job to fix them or to change them. If you do want to stay, take it a day at a time. But always keep you in mind! What can I do if my friend is denying my allegations about being a liar? Be prepared the next time and get some solid proof of the lie to confront them. Yes No. Not Helpful 1 Helpful Tom De Backer. Not Helpful 3 Helpful My boyfriend lies, then admits his lies, but he later tries to flip the script and make me the guilty party when I call him on his lies. What do I do? Have self-respect, you don't have to accept this. You should leave him. Tell him you can't stand his attitude, that you dislike compulsive liars that want to blame other people instead of admitting their mistakes, and tell him that you'll leave him. Not Helpful 4 Helpful What if the liar is my mother? I am torn to what extent I should allow her in my life, and around my daughters her grandchildren , in particular. Family will always be family; however, you are responsible for the well being of your children. If being around their grandmother is bad for them, then limit that as much as you like and supervise their time together. Make sure to tell your mother what you are doing and why. Not Helpful 2 Helpful How do I deal with a compulsive liar who is lying to get someone arrested? An arrest is an official case. Human decent also compels you to share what you know. Continue to love her but also be very clear when you don't believe something. Tell her that she cannot treat you with such disrespect because you have birth to her and you know her inside out. Ask her to consider why she needs to lie in order to get along with everyone and suggest that she has therapy to learn more effective communication skills so that she can lead a happier and more fulfilling life down the track. Just be sure to remind her how much you love her, and that you're supporting of her journey to undo the lying. Not Helpful 7 Helpful My sister is a compulsive liar and my parents always believe her no matter what. She keeps getting me in trouble. How do I handle this? I have had the same issue. You need to first look at why your parents always believe her. What's the reason? Then you need to tackle the issue. For me it was because she had a closer relationship and told them things first so when I came to them, they had already formed an opinion. It may be wise to have an open and honest conversation first with your parents. If that doesn't work, I would obtain proof of her lies and show it to them. Not Helpful 5 Helpful Does a compulsive liar lie to everybody or just the person he is with? They lie compulsively in the moment regardless of who they're speaking to. Not Helpful 0 Helpful 4. It's possible, but highly doubtful. The compulsive liar would have to figure out why she is lying unnecessarily in the first place. All you can do is gradually lead her to the point where she feels the need to look into her compulsion. In the meantime, you either have to accept her the way she is, let the small lies go and fight only for the big ones or leave the liar to herself. Not Helpful 9 Helpful The person wants to avoid responsibility so they blame other people or things. This can be a severe problem in all relationships. As it makes it almost impossible to rebuild trust, for trust to grow, acceptance of responsibility for actions and consequences is critical. Avoiding shame links in to the self-esteem section, the need for approval is linked with not feeling good enough with people knowing the truth. When they met Rob lied about his wealth, car, properties and job. Nicky found out later that he was unemployed and spent his days in arcades and pubs. He was too ashamed to say he was struggling to find work and that he was living with his parents. Childhood trauma can be at the heart of compulsive lying in later years. This is when deception gets associated as having a positive advantage to telling the truth. Compulsive Lying Disorder Reason 6 Parental modelling. Parental modelling can be a determinant in pathological lying. Claire was compulsively lying to her husband and they were heading for divorce because of it before I met them. When Claire and I examined the roots of her lying, it became apparent it was from watching her mother lie to her father. Her father worked away often and she heard her mother frequently lying about drinking alcohol, about how much money she was spending and what things cost. Her mother would also consistently lie about her social life, more specifically how often she left the house at night. Her mother seemed to revel in the lies and would wink and smile at Claire when she did made them. Compulsive Lying Disorder Reason 7 Avoid intimacy. As a relationship expert, I have successfully helped countless men and women break their fears of intimacy. For Tim hiding his feelings, whereabouts and thoughts were essential for him to stay in a relationship. If someone got too close, that would be it, he would need to end the relationship. In fact most of his life he was more comfortable with short flings and casual arrangements. He tried a few times to make relationships work but always got cold feet. He wanted a family life and relationship in many ways, but on the other hand, it did scare him. This is where men and women crave attention and affection and will make efforts to date and meet people, but as soon as they get close to something serious, they run a mile. Nearly always this is because of previous relationship or childhood pain. My husband is the same way. Plus what Kaylee Joseph at the top said. He also lies because he wants to avoid confrontation. I just found out that he failed his college classes and lied to me about it for three years. Going to explode with anger! I lied to my husband about having the right insurance on a ups item that got lost. I told him ups was refunding the money and took out a lone to try and cover it up. He caught me in the lie and I apologized and explained or tried to explain that I did it to try and make things right. I told him I was sorry and I hope he can forgive me in time. I feel so bad on what I did. He has stopped drinking now though. I did wrong and I apologized to him about it. We have both lied to each other in the past. I told him I was sorry…. Before bed last night and this morning. I am so mad at myself for doing this.. I need advice.. I wish we could just trade our partners for each other. Let the freaking liars live together. I want to enjoy my life. Wow, that sounds a lot like my husband. Though most people here have been expressing concern with porn and drug addictions my husband does not have that problem. Of course, I am a very flexible wife. What bothers me is the lies. Is mad when I point out our money problems. When I prove he is lying then he breaks things, threatens to hurt himself, and runs away. My sister insist I wait until my children are grown. I cannot wait three more years! I find that the only reason I am with him is because I am scared he will hurt himself and it will be my fault. Though I know this is emotional abuse I cannot seem to take the chance with his life. He swears he is not lying but his story does not make sense. When I point out holes in his story he gets mad at me. I have worked hard to be better person, wife, and mother. All my efforts went without being noticed and was used against me. It is almost like he wants to beat me down so no one else will want me. The problem with his intentions is that I have no idea to get in another relationship. I just want him out! My boyfriend and I have 3 kids together. All along I have tried to be the girl of his dreams. Constantly trying to learn about things he loves…which is probably fine. But then I took it to the extreme. I also allowed myself to be ok with him watching porn. Then it went on to trading my pics with other men on Craigslist for pics of their women or ex women. And then I caught him in a lie. And I got his ex to confess to me that he slept with her. So after he adamantly denied this… I tried to forget it for the sake of our children. Then he asked me to sleep with his friend while he watched, possibly joining in… I felt trapped since he never admitted to cheating. I wanted to be the girl of his dreams. The one who was sweet and kind, smart and beautiful, and freaky in the sheets. It helped me feel empowered at first. He got kinda jealous after. Several refused to respond. Others blocked me. I am so screwed too. Cause I have nothing. I live in his town 3 hours from my hometown. My mom died recently and 3 of my siblings have overdosed and died also. Hell I barely had one. I feel like I have never been loved. No matter how much love I give out. My now husband was caught talking to and seeing another woman before we married. Have moments of anger and hatred toward him! I am so happy to find this article. I have been married for 3 years and my husband is constantly lying to me. I actually found out that when I was busy with our wedding preparation he was at the bar, drinking with his friend and spending time with some women. In the beginning when he was leaving that day he told me that they have a business netting with one of the directors at the restaurant. I believed him. He was with a woman. They were hugging each other. When I found that picture he had to tell me the true. He told me that he feels awful about that night. That he did not have any contact with that women and that this is the biggest lesson for him. That was the biggest mistake of MY life. Since that moment we had about 8 situations that ware even worse. And he kept lying to me. I really thought that he will change. I can not do it anymore. The worst thing I can not leave him. Mine live far away. I wish I had someone to talk to. You can msg me or we could leave emails or start a closed FB group for support. I feel the samwe way most of you feel and financially sinking now. Its so depressing. I have been with my husband for When we were married 9 years later, He insisted I change my name at dmv But firmly ordered me not to tell the social security office. In ,We left our families my children and grandchildren to move to Florida for a job opportunity. I know noone in this town am stranded and spend 14 hours a day alone Its going on 6 months since losing driving priveleges and having any human contact other than him He has lied to his parents telling them he needs money to this for me Or he needs money to take me somewhere to get me out of house Tells them I have illnesses such as pnuemonia and I need doctor appointment and medicine money only to blow it elsewhere He will not take me anywhere and when I just cant take it anymore and begin to cry and beg for even a conversation or a ride to look at the lake He threatens to work others hours just to keep away from me being negative I do everything for him including keeping his lies our secret He has lied and borrowed in the past 2 years. My husband has been lying to me throughout our 46 year marriage. I am now really ill with Lyme disease and the stress of not being able to trust him is making me so much worse. I have been married for 45 years and now fairly certain that I have been lied to about money and other things for all those years. I think back and when the other young couples that we knew all of the men worked for the same company were buying their first houses, we could barely make the rent, when we did finally buy a house, years later, it was foreclosed on. A number of years and jobs later and we used my inheritance from my mother to put down a much too small down payment on a house that was definitely out of our price range, but he wanted the big, fancy one, and now that is in foreclosure. And he has lied about it for months now. Still trying to lie out of it. And even with that, I had several thousand dollars confiscated a few years ago for back taxes. He insists on doing our taxes himself. When I have the nerve to ask if we owe anything, he always says not to worry about it. Waits till the last minute to file, and sometimes I dint think he has. He likes to be the big shot. I know he will have some story all made up when we have to vacate our house. I need to get out now. Actually I know that I should have never gotten in. I feel trapped and just dnt know what to do. I am trapped I look at him and I hate him for what his done to me. My boys know what his done to me but always seem to take his side because they feel sorry for him. The same to me also. Wants to act like everything is OK and back to usual. Am I just crazy. How would I ever think he would be truthful again. Debbie, Your comment was short but said it all for me. Lie after lie and here I still sit. I am 61 now and kicked him out for the first time last night. Every time this happens, he acts like everything is just fine. He thinks he should be able to come home tonight. Says we in other words.. I know what he wants, the same thing that always happens. I found out the last three years that my husband has lied to me for as long as 12 years. I found pictures of him with two women one on each side and one of them was kissing my husband on the cheek. He said they were his co workers at the time as the pictures were at work. I wish I had found out about all this 12 years go. I feel for you and your situation. Three years ago, I notice him disconnecting emotionally. Not bonding with me or our kids. He wrestled to grab the phone from me, using ALL his strength. I believed him, but later questioned it. Shortly after he moved out, he rented an apartment. Regardless, I attempted to salvage our marriage, while he stood on the sidelines watching me suffer. Although he made no effort in helping us get back together, he finally gave me feedback to reconcile. But, I have more than suspicions, I have a gut feeling that something is just not right. Now could I have been soo setup ALL this time. I want out of this marriage sooo bad. May GOD give me the strength to overcome this. Ronda, I just read this post. My husband has lied to me for 30 years. I found it out 7 years ago. Promised to be honest but continues lying about almost everything. Thanks, Nora. I just read your post. I have a six month old so trying to be strategic. Sorry to hear about your husbands dishonesty. I hope things are better for you now. I am just working my way through a situation now with a dishonest partner. I have a six month old so am trying to be strategic rather than reacting…. He went gambling. I have confronted him but he just called says I m crazy. Awesome story, even some God fearing men are pathological liars and need deliverance. Counseling is great, but deliverance is what is needed. God bless you for your strength and your love to trust Him. I am not sure how Biblical this article is! How surprising! When someone lies to their spouse, turning the focus AWAY from the person doing the lying is detrimental. Satan is the father of lies. Why would be so welcoming and non-judgmental about this? The advice in this article seems to be to ask them what fault they see in the victim of the lie, so they can make excuses for themselves. This denies them being accountable for their own actions, and placing the responsibility for the lies on the person being lied to?! A Godly perspective would be to firmly make sure that person is NOT lying to protect their ego or to hurt the other person and also that it will not be tolerated. There are consequences to ungodly behavior. A person who lies to their spouse usually does not care what the lies do to their spouse and a light slap on the wrist typically makes them see their spouse as weak and will continue to lie to them. It is most definitely a character issue! You did try to bring this back around and did say some good things, but it is completely from a point of view that the person LYING is the one to be catered to. Wrong is wrong and Satan is pointed out in scripture as the father of lies. Bottom line. You are exactly right!!!! When dealing with a liar, one cannot afford to give them the opportunity to make lame excuses for their behavior. A liar, sociopaths or psychopath need to be confront head on with the truth. Well said. I felt the same way when reading this. As if to put part of the blame on the victim of the lie. Savannah, I saw the same things you brought up about this article how it was not biblical. Anything to lighten what actually happened and to avoid the truthful details. I try to work it out and I feel like a fool for being blunt yet also very forgiving over these 16 years of marriage. What I have tried so hard for in a relationship is just not happening. She has enough pride for 7 people and admitting things she is pinned on will not happen. I hate phony. During our dating stages, our relationship was amazing even though at one point she lied to me about her best friend being a guy. I met all her friends but this particular guy was different. I told her that it would hv been weird, yes, but seeing her with a straight face lied in my face was pretty scary because it would make me question whether or not she is lying again. Her statement was.. Then she said she did it because she knew it would upset me. It has been an up battle. This incident with her coworker happened on Thanksgiving night. Last weekend, her work had a Christmas party. At one point, we even video chat showing me the party people at her table. I texted her, called her without any answers. At first I thought she had fallen asleep because she sounded tired frm the night before but again my gut instinct told me otherwise. I felt like a bucket of ice water had been poured on me. She has literally turned the table on me why she has lied all these times. I told her it is difficult to let go when issues keep happening even after we got married. I hv been doing alot of soul searching. I love her, yes….. Do I want it to work…, yes. Reading yours posts makes me question so much about me…. I know for a fact if something happens again especially with alcohol she will continue blaming me for her deceiving actions. So the only thing I do now is pray to see what God has storaged for us. This last incident happened this past weekend. I feel confused. I feel like I am working way to hard to believe her now but most of all my inner peace has been shattered. This is what happened for being a hopeless romantic I guess. I will appreciate any feedback whether or not those lies will continue frm your point of view. I keep catching him in his lies and keep forgiving him. The night before our wedding I asked him if he has anything to tell me before our big day, i told him that this is your chance to come clean before our wedding. He said to me to my face he has nothing to hide. He said it is a friend and he calls her to ask advice about the issues and problems that goes on in our relationship. I absolutely will not trust him ever again. If anyone has any advice besides keep fighting, will be great. God bless us all. I know your pain. This will not end soon, if it ends at all. She has a problem with alcohol and she lies about other things as well. Liars are liars. I am in almost exact same situation as you. It was an Indian arranged marriage. Knew him about 3 months before marriage. He is very loving towards me, shops for me, we travelled to different countries. He even said he is going to tell everyone and shame me. Next day he would say sorry. I let go multiple incidents and then slowly the lies about drinking. Lies about every small thing , sams time he would care for me very much.. Everyone said you are so lucky. Another drinking incident and when I confronted he left me in the middle of the night , threw my clothes in the hotel room and took all the suitcases. He did all this in front of my and his friends. He made up stuff that I am not capable of having kids. Days of drinking continued and fights. I figured through find iPhone that he actually went to Bangkok. When I texted he just kept lying about the hotel he is staying and that he is going to meet people for his work. It shattered me like someone kicks me in my stomach. Next he messaged saying he lied and that he is not drinking but no apology. Left it in limbo. I miss the good things he did.. Or was all this attention an act? Maybe he never really felt sorry for his acts.. Why I still want this to work.. Absolutely true! My husband lies about everything, especially in ways dt damage my character to his family and friends. I have put up with it for d longest time but no more. Satan is indeed d father of liars. Amen Savannah!!! Thank goodness I continued to read down thru comments to find yours!!! ALL ungodly behviors. I remained is this hellish nightmare with my unrepentant, non sorrowful husband for 17 years. He became adapt at tuning into exactly what he believes equipped him to continue in his wicked behavior…as the few times he did attend any church services…. Sorry for the rant…but I made a very huge and costly mistake of listening to early advice for church leaders.. Early on after consulting, crying and pleading for help in addressing these ongoing habitual lies…intentional withholding of intimacy as form of punishment…I was told to find ways to better please him…and that if I loved him enough…I would be able to get him to do anything i want! THAT is what one pastor of a very large church told me! How pathetic. I pray for women who are faced with these horrendous issues…I pray that they have courage to trust in the Almighty YAHVEH Elohim that created them…and through their steadfast obedience to HIM and in love for their Savior Yeshua of Natzaret, they are able to break free from the bondage and wickedness of their spouses unrepentant, rebelliousness towards our Heavenly FAther. HOW in the world is anyone ever able to bear fruit being yoked up with a rotten branch? She is old enough to know the TRUTH of the wickedness at hand…and that I have had to place NO Contact in order to further protect her from his very unbalanced views of women! I refuse to allow him to exploit her! Long reply I know… i suppose there is therapy in sharing our most hurtful and disappointing encounters. Even if the sob story were true, it still wouldn't justify the lying. A pathological liar knows our natural response is one of empathy and pity and they use it full to their advantage. I remember my ex-husband screaming at me with such a cold look in his eyes that I completely forgot what I was upset about in the first place. Reacting with anger is another technique used by the pathological liar. You try to have an open discussion about something that just isn't adding up, and he erupts in a rage. You immediately shut down. At first maybe you're upset and pissed right back. But then, when it becomes clear that your partner is not backing down from his volcanic rage, you become nervous you've somehow gone too far and pushed him over the edge. You even apologize to him for making him so angry and find yourself being more careful in the future to not set him off. This is the single biggest indicator that you're living with a pathological liar. If you have seen him unflinchingly and convincingly tell a lie to someone else, stop right there; you are living with a stone cold liar. You may try to rationalize that he would never lie to you, in fact, he only lied to protect you!.

You can overcome dishonesty in your marriage. My husband hates conflict, so he is a habitual liar: He says whatever people want to hear. Husbands often resort to lying as an easy way out- but lies hurt and destroy Even when a compulsive liar frames a convincing reply, his body. If you are married to a compulsive liar and feeling confused, frustrated and have helped countless couples where a husband or wife is a compulsive liar and Needless to say it caused a great deal of tension between them.

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